What Should I Do If My Dad Yells At Me?

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My dad probably had a really bad upbringing. I wouldn't know, because HE DOES NOT COMMUNICATE. This is the reason he yells *It makes him look like the child, not the adult. But it is very sad really, he never learned how to simply talk to get his message across. I know his dad was abusive, and little does he realize he is cuttin it close to becoming his own father! It's mostly dad's who yell because that's all they know how to do. Many Dads turn away from "talking about their feelings" which ultimately ends up destroying relationships.  All you can do is tell yourself "I will NEVER do that to MY children" use him as the example of what NEVER to do! Sometimes, I can't help but yell at him because over the years I have lost respect for him, myself. Some others had good advice, stay away and keep your distance for a while, and make sure to do something (sports/art/reading...) to calm down and regroup your thoughts. :( sorry to be so pessimistic, but that's often times the bleak reality!
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Play it cool just agree with whatever he says then after woods go up to the sfer or somthing soft and hit it untill you relax.
It feels good try it.
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When he yells at you just nod and leave the room and take some deep breaths. And I picture in my head me punching him but I would neva actually do that. Just stay out of his way for a while and go suck up to your mum she will probably have a talk with him. Just ignore him unless he is actully telling you to do something if  he is just yelling about nothing at all just ignore him but nod when he is done and then leave.
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Smile and play it cool, like you're above him

"Forgive your enemies, nothing annoys them more."
-Oscar Wilde
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I think that you should leave the room and calm your nerves and then go back
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When things are cool and he does something nice, give him a hug and tell him something nice like "You are soo sweet..." but add, softly "excepting when you are mad." That may make him think: He wants you to think good things of him all the time. When he yells at you, just drop your head down and stand it (this is a sign of humility, that may make him feel like there's no-one to fight and that he has no reason to fight with nobody and calm him a bit). Listen to what he says. When he finishes try to repeat to him out loud what you were told to do or how you were told to behave. If it makes him madder just shut up. He will understand that you want to please him, not madden him. He may still yell later on, but not for so long nor so often.
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Tell him to screw off you always have to stand up for youre self if they say sorry take it butt really tell youre self youre self never give up not standing up for youre self
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I'm sorry, but I have no idea what "dsf and dood" means.

The question I have to ask is why your dad yells at you. Is it because you've done something wrong? Is it for no reason? Without knowing the circumstance we can't tell you what to do.
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Usually when a parent yells at a child, the child has really got on his last nerve. Although, I do not like to yell at children, I am sorry to say I have. Your father could have had a bad day and is taking it out on you. Why, because you were there. The next time he yells at you, from afar say to him, I can't hear you and perhaps he will get the message that he is talking too loud. If that does not work try taping the conversation and one day when he is in a good mood play it for him. We just can not hear what it sounds like to others. Good Luck.
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What you should do when your dad yells ay us is...say you know what you need to stop yelling because I am sick of you yelling at us.thats what you should do.
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My tip this is what I do
IN my head I say stop yelling at me why the heck are you yelling
I am no not sure if it helps but it calms me down
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My dad got got mad at me last week when he found a plate downstairs where he has supposedly told me not to eat down there any more plenty of times (maybe 2 max) so when he started to yell at me I said that I thought it was bullsh#t when he leaves plates all over the house and gets mad a t me for 1 plate. So he grabbed my shirt and pulls me to the ground and tries to punch me I dodge it and punch him I broke his nose and got blood everywhere. He now respects me and treats me like a man. He talks to me about what I do wrong and I asked what I can do to improve I ask what he expected of me he tells me and I try my best to live up to them but every now and then I screw up and we talk about it not a one way conversation any more
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Helthlady is correct sometimes when your dad goes to work then he comes back he feels exausted( my dad is a teacher it makes him get angrier) (like I do when I come from school sometimes) and he feels like smashing everything infront of him like a smashed potato but you know, if your dad does that whatever the reason is( you didnt here him calling you, you didnt listen when he siad CLOSE THE COMPUTER! Or simply its another way your dad acts) you go to him and appologize and tell him that youll never do it again but don't re-peat it then he may hit you
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Make him feel stupid (correct him when he makes a small mistake) or when he gets in your face tell him to stop spitting in your face and yell for your mom.
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I think that you shouldn't talk back or stand up for yourself not saying not to take matters into your own hands though...
What you should do: Talk back in mind only and do everything else that you want to do to him in the mind but don't go phys co in the head either.
Also, what you could do would be to just say "Ok I see you had a bad day" and that always calms them down and gets a nice and "sorry" hug.
Hope these help!
-Anjelica G.

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