Talk to the child's parent and form rules you both agree. Then get the parent to sit the child down and explain the rules and say why certain behaviour is not acceptable and what is expected in the future. A step child often tries to split up the relationship so it is essential that you and your husband/wife are completely united.
Let everyone know the rules for your household and if it is a step dad he needs to advise the mother that she needs to get a handle on her kids, if it is dads kids then he needs to man up and take charge of his kids and stop thinking they won't like him if he corrects them...the adults need to sit down and discuss how things will be handled with these little ba bay kids...the best to you
First of all, find out what the problem is between you and your step kids. I am a teen and I know if I had a step parent, it would be hard for me and I would be a little disrespectful, only because it's affecting me the most, since I am the child. Talk to your husband about it, but don't be rude about it either. Be nice and tell them how you feel, as well as discuss how they feel about you as well. If they begin to get rude about it, refrain from saying anything at all, because you need to pay attention and listen to what they have to say. Don't bother them too much because they know how to make you look bad in front of your husband. Also, don't act too motherly towards them, but don't be too careless because they know for a fact that you were never a part of their original family, and that it takes time to heal the wound of the parent who's not with them. Hope that helps in some ways.
