I Am A 60 Year Old Woman And I've Never Had Sex. What Is Wrong With Me?


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Oscar De La Huerte Profile
Being sixty and not having had sex yet is by no means the norm, however it doesn't necessarily mean there's anything wrong with you either. The most important thing, when it comes to your sexuality, is that you are happy with who you are.

No sex in sixty years

I can't really speculate as to why you've decided to go six decades without having had sex, but I can tell you that if you're happy with the way things are, you shouldn't really pay much attention to what anyone else says.

Some people, by their very nature, are not very sexually driven.

Whilst they may only represent a small percentage of the population, there are people out there just like you, who don't really see what all the fuss about sex is.

Some of them may have even tried having sex a few times and found that it wasn't for them - every case is unique.

How to have sex at sixty

The only reason to be concerned about a lack of sex is if you're interested in having some!

If you are in the situation where you've been looking for some 'action' and just haven't found the right time or person (in the past sixty years) then there are a number of things you can do to remedy the situation.

Firstly, I'd suggest looking at the reasons why you haven't had sex up till now. Many people will relate to one of the following factors when it comes to celibacy:
  • Not finding the right person
  • Not having a sex drive
  • Too shy to have sex with someone
  • Social, ethical or religious pressure against sex
  • Negative experiences of sex in the past
If you feel one of the above factors is holding you back from having sex, then I'd suggest you explore the issue with the help of an expert in the relevant field. For example, trouble finding the right person to have intercourse with can be solved with the help of a dating expert or match-making website. On the other hand, a negative sexual experience in your past may need the guidance of a psychologist to overcome.

Whatever the reason behind your celibacy, try and remember that having sex is a natural function of the human body, and it is entirely healthy to want to explore that aspect of your nature - whatever your age.
Gillian Smith Profile
Gillian Smith answered
There's nothing wrong with you. Life just goes by sometimes without having met the right person or having the chance.

As you must have heard 60 is the new 40 or 50 so you've got a lot of living to do yet! Life isn't designed just for the young (I keep saying this to myself!). There are plenty of sixty-year-olds out there looking for the right someone - either because they've been too busy with careers, caring, other responsibilities and are waiting to have some fun.

Why not try a few new interests and get out and meet new people? Now's the time to go on holiday, then sort where you might meet unattached people. Instead of thinking that there's something wrong with you, say that there's nothing wrong, you just haven't been in the right place at the right time and that's going to change now. New interests, new holidays new adventures can all help to widen your chances of meeting people.

You are obviously still a girl at heart and that's what counts! Have you thought of joining an online site like Genes Reunited Dating? You can meet people as friends first and make a start at having a wider social circle.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I'm sorry to hear that. If I was older enough I would be glad to be with you but don't feel bad. I'm going through the same thing except I'm just a 21 year old male but let me tell you something - forget them and move on with your life. That's what I'm going to do. I'm joining the Navy to get away but you will be A-okay.
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Nothing! There are lot of girls out there who lost their virginity at sixteen, and who still have emotional scars today because of it. They thought they going to be loved, instead they were just screwed.
Aamir Riaz Profile
Aamir Riaz answered
Well it sounds strange and uncommon, that even at the age of 60 you have not yet experienced sex. You yourself are the best person to evaluate this matter and the reasons for this fact. What we can do is only the guesswork and assessment as to what might have happened.

There could be several reasons which are numbered below:
1. You might be shy
2. You might have not found any person attractive enough to do sex
3. Your hormones may be disturbed which did not arouse any urge in you for sex
4. You might have been told horrible stories about sex, which made you be afraid of having sex
5. Your parents may have told you that this is a very bad thing and you started hating sex when it was time and now it is no longer your choice.
6. Your family may be very religious. And to have only one thing on their agenda - to keep their kids away from sexual activity, without knowing what bigger wrong they are doing.
7. I am not pleased to mention this but please excuse me if it hurts, you may not be attractive enough to get any attention from a guy to be with you and have sex with you.
thanked the writer.
Mrs Ellis
Mrs Ellis commented
That last answer was a cold on. The female sex organ does not have a face honey. She might have a beautiful personality. If I were a man and meet a good woman I would not care what her face looked liked when I banged her.
Shahzaib Hasan
Shahzaib Hasan commented
love answer :D
Mrs Ellis Profile
Mrs Ellis answered
Nothing is wrong with you. You just did not find Mr. Right to settle down with. You are pure - be proud of that.
David Lill Profile
David Lill answered
Nothing! Some people are what can be called non-sexual.I have a friend in her '40s who's never had sex and doesn't want it.She is married to her career and only wants friends in her life. I think Roddy McDowell was like that.
BaNe SKELIK Profile
BaNe SKELIK answered
I don't know - I'm not a doctor. But you missed out on a lot of good times in your youth. Fear profits you nothing.

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