I heard in India sometimes a husband and wife in an arranged marriage don't meet until the day of their wedding. Does this happen to Catholic Indians, and if so, how do they get around the Church's regulation about going through marriage prep first?

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Didge Doo answered

You may find that the requirement varies from one country to another, even from one parish to another. It's certainly a good way to help minimise the divorce rate.

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Steve En
Steve En commented
That is true.
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Steve En commented
I guess I do feel like I might want to get married someday. I would like to show the love of a husband to a potential future wife and the love of a father to potential future children. I would like to find out what options are available for making divorce less likely and that the potential wife would have traditional values and/or be part of a society that enforces traditional values.
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Steve En commented
I can see why many turn to hooking up instead of marriage, though. I personally would find that pleasurable in the short term, but it would leave me feeling empty in the long term.
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Ray Dart answered

Not an answer to the question, and apropos of nothing at all really.

The manager of my little company in India married a man she had met only three times. He was about 15 years older than she. She told me that she didn't really like him the first time they met, but had "got used to the idea of marrying him" at their third meeting.

After they married, he immediately asked her to resign from my company, which she had to do (the husband's decision is absolutely final in such matters in India).

He put her to work at a company that paid more money than I could but where she had a much lower status.

She was a mother 9 months later and quit all work. They then found that they could not live on his salary alone, and he tried to get her "work from home".

Arranged marriages are usually bad for females and the status of women in India has a very long way to go.

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Steve En commented
I agree it sounds like it could be potentially bad for the woman, although if the guy is pretty good it might not be too bad.

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