The Canon Law (which is the equivalent of Civil Law....only within the Catholic Church) sets certain criterea for a marriage to be a Sacrament and validated by the Catholic Church. There are so may factors involved with this!!! If you and your ex were never married in a Catholic Church with a priest, then the Catholic party needs to have a statement of "Lack of Form". This means that the Catholic person should marry by a priest in a church. If he doesn't, he didn't receive this sacrament and within the Canon Law, the Church doesn't deem it valid. (IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH CIVIL LAW. YOUR CHILDREN ARE NOT CONSIDERED ILLEGITAMITE, AND IT HAS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH OWNERSHIP OF PROPERTY OR MARRITAL RIGHTS OF SUCCESSION!!!) This is all done in the courts by civil law. Canon law doesn't award children, property or anything of that type. NOW>>>>If you were married by a priest in a church, then the paperwork is more extensive, but it is all on the Catholic person to do. The Church recognizes that there are extenuating circumstances in marriages that would keep them from being Sacramental. (i.e. Forcing a bride to marry, marrying a person underage, being mentally incompetent to understand marriage. Etc.) Then the process takes more time. Either way it happens, your property and the awards given by the divorce decree are NOT AFFECTED!!! Again, that is Civil Law!! With annulments, the Church only deals with Canon Law!!! Also, whether you sign or not, just means that the process may be delayed. If the Catholic person has grounds, it is only a courtesy that you are contacted. You don't have to agree to it. But believe me, it is not automatically given to him, by any means. It is reviewed, and re-reviewed. There are advocates appointed for both parties to go before the tribunal. Then when a decision comes down at the first level....the paperwork must go to a higher level to either agree or disagree with the first decsion. It is complicated and extensive. It is NOT taken lightly by the Church and it isn't the case that if you want one.....you get one. But after reading the other comments to your question, I understand how much misunderstanding there is regarding the annulment question. Basically, this is an issue for the Catholic person. We want to have the Sacraments ("gifts from God") given to us in our lifetime. There are always "exceptions" to every rule. Don't be afraid of this annulment. It is probably the MOST misunderstood process in the whole world. Not meant to punish anyone, but meant to bring the Catholic person some healing with their relationship to God, as defined bny the Faith. I am an annulment companion. I took extensive training on these issues so that I could work hand in hand with divorced partners to try to bring the Catholic person back into full communion with God. Good Luck!
Don't do it if you in a way it make where you have nothing open your eyes he's trying to make it where are you and your children did not even exist if you do this he can claim that he never even knew you or your children you have together and no matter what they will have no rights if you do this
Don't sign anything, the church will assign annulment papers if they deem them appropriate. It would mean your marriage never happened, if you have children by this man they would not be recognized by the church. He is asking so HE can be remarried in the church not for any benefit to YOU. Let him have a civil ceremony or find a priest who will do a ceremony for him. You have no responsibility to sign anything to say your marriage was not sanctified by the church because it was.
My aunt went though this. Priest,Nuns and her ex called her at all times claiming she was cheating on the marriage and such. The truth was he was married 6 times and the church didn't know that he decided to pick on her so he could marry a catholic woman. My aunt finally told the church the truth and said if they continue she would sue them. No more harrissing phone call. My advice don't do it. If the bum wants to remarry let him figure it out you are done with him.
Once married in Gods sight always married as long as both of you are alive. Second marriages are not in his devine will. That's why he stated in the marriage vow Till Death Do You part.