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I was texting a shy guy for almost four hours, he was really engaging too! He even said it was nice talking with me! But I texted him the other day and he never replied, he usually always replies. Does that mean he isn't into me?

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PJ Stein answered

Maybe he is busy. Maybe his phone is dead.

Judging by your questions, I would say you are not mature enough for a relationship. I would just let it and him go, and refocus all the time and energy you are putting into all this and put it into your studies. 

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Sapphire  Ocean
Sapphire Ocean commented
Actually I am perfectly mature enough for a relationship. I just struggle with anxiety (which is why I ask the same questions, I need the validation) and just unfortunately have very low self-esteem. Now, that is very unfortunate for myself, however, in no way does it make me immature or restrict my capability of having a perfectly normal, high school relationship. This website is intended for questions, so I am going to ask them. They may be ridiculous but knowing that someone out there thinks my situation is okay or can provide some insight, puts me at ease. I appreciate your answer very much. You give good advice, but don't worry, I'm very focused in my studies and get excellent grades as well. I could happily do without your unnecessary judgement. Thank you.
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Danae Hitch answered

Purple Rose, believe it or not, he won't have the time to text you 4 hours every time you want to chat. He's got other things going on in his life that take time. If he still lives at home, there is family that he is interacting with. Perhaps his mom wasn't all that thrilled when she found out he was texting so much with one girl and asked him to cool it.  You don't know unless you ask him about it.

Asking questions here is fine, unless they are the same question over and over again. That is definitely not fine. It will lead to the mods deleting the questions if they are repetitive in nature.

If you need validation, that's what girlfriends / friends are for. As in any friendship / relationship that you have, there is bound to be miscommunication leading someone to feel misunderstood. If something is not clear, ASK THEM. We don't know either one of the parties involved - we can only GUESS at what's going on. That's why you need to communicate with him.

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Danae Hitch
Danae Hitch commented
I'm not getting the impression that he is blatantly ignoring you. It's more likely that he has things going on and he hasn't had the time to text back. Don't make assumptions. Just text him in a couple of days to see how he's doing.

In addition, if he's shy, then HE could be wondering if you like him. So perhaps, he's not sure if he should text you back.

If possible, if this not-texting thing goes on, you might see if you can talk with him face-to-face. It gives you an opportunity to read his body language and his facial expressions and also gives you guys to try and talk about this.
Sapphire  Ocean
Sapphire Ocean commented
Thanks a million, I'll most definitely use your advice:)
Danae Hitch
Danae Hitch commented
Happy to help.

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