It's a problem, all right. The solution is to go out with VERY old men. I remember one movie in which a very camp old guy complained, "I can still remember how. I can't seem to remember why."
I'm gay and attracted to older men, but I'm afraid if I go out with one they'll just use me for sex?
Use the "Joan" rule date and wait 3 months before you have sex.
Also, in the olden and antique days, couples had chaperones on every date and we're never alone.
You know repeatedly having sex with everyone you meet will only cause you misery and long term pain.
Finally, if you need help seek out group therapy for encouragement.
I am so sorry to say but gay or not, older men going out with a much younger person is usually with that in mind. An older woman going out with a much younger person is usually more of a "I'm still young and hot and can get a young thing!" LOL! Both are for their own selfish matter. What I am trying to get at, is can you date someone closer to your own age? That might help you. Or maybe you can seek some counseling on why you seek the love and approval of an older gentleman. I bet THAT is the key right there...... :0)
Aw come on man. You know and I know that it's all about sex. If that's not what you want, then move on. Although, you can't go through life being afraid of every little thing.