Just another reason why kids shouldn't have sex. Was it really worth all of this angst and possible pregnancy later?
Help!!! Under age unprotected sex at 14!! Well it was today, june 26, 2016... We were in the moment and everything.. Alone.. Kissing.. And then it just kept going on.. Her DAD WOULD KILL ME. Her family would HATE me... MY FAMILY WOULD MURDER ME?
Ahhh, the joys of family planning. I know they teach this stuff in school, starting in elementary grades. Any time you have unprotected sex, there is a possibility of the girl getting pregnant. Anybody knows this.
Let me tell you one thing - stop messing around. This is not a joke. You guys are 14 years old - do you actually want to be a parent now?
Go to the dollar store and buy a pregnancy test. Have her use the test first thing in the morning. If, by chance, she is NOT pregnant, take this as a warning. You don't need to be having sex at 14 years old and if you insist on letting your hormones rule your life, buy some condoms, for gosh sakes. Seriously.
Stop making choices where you are unable or unworthy to deal with the consequences of such actions.
You should let her daddy teach you a lesson.
HAVE SOME RESPECT FOR HIS DAUGHTER AS WELL AS YOURSELF!
You seem to think that playing in the caldera of a recently erupted volcano is a fine thing to do.
You are literally "playing" with fire.
Until you are consistently avoiding such perilous adventures, I suggest to go play on the flatland's and totally avoid the mountains.
At this point, you might even want to avoid the second stories of houses and buildings---you just don't realize the danger above the height of the first floor.
I know that sinking feeling in your gut, just hope that everything goes alright
Someone needs a a$$whooping regardless.
Been there, happen with my oldest daughter at 14! First of all, quit beating yourself up over this! If you handcuffed them to your wrist 24/7/365 they would still figure out a way to have relations! You can teach them, the schools can teach them, your minister can teach the that it is wrong, but at that age they know everything! Your family will be mad, BUT, if they love you this too shall pass. First concerns: Did the relation result in a pregnancy? Is there a possibility of a social diesese? How old is the boy in this action?
In Colorado if one person is 14 or under and the other is over 18 it is a felony because the 14 year old can't legally give permission for the act. Check your states laws to be sure though. Several other factors can happen, CPS can make a case for dependency and neglect against the parents. They filed against me, my youngest was charged with attempted first degree murder, I was the victim, but it didn't matter, spent 6 months going to court, reperenseted myself and won the case. Then they tried me civilly for his cost of care, I won that one too. Yes the whole thing will open a very large can of worms, but then it is time to go fishing! It isn't an excuse, but things happen, the biggest thing is how we deal with it! We can play the pity party, and poor me it until it ruins our life, or turn the adversity into a positive, learn from it, teach others how you survive it and move to the next issue!
Listen, I know you are panicking right now, but before you take action, you need to ask yourself a question.
Are you serious with this girl?
Whether you are serious with her or not, if she does get pregnant, you should take responsibility as the father. If you are serious about it, then you should tell this to your parents and hers. You got yourself is a sticky mess here. I won't lie, things are only going to get tougher from here.
Like many people have said, whether you like it or not, you will have to face the consequences! Sorry, but the thing to do now is to be honest in this situation. I know it's difficult and scary to face things, but the sooner you confess, the sooner people will accept it.
Good luck, and let this be lesson to you!
Hmm .. Well, there is not much you can do about it now, then isn't there. The damage is done. Neither of your families are going to like this much, granted, but their negative opinion about this is not the worse thing that can happen.
If .. And that is a big "if" this doesn't result in a pregnancy .. You have dodged a bullet (so to speak). DON'T do it again .. Until you know (emphasis on "know") what you are doing and are able to make an informed adult decision (with full understanding and acceptance of the consequences) about what it is you are doing. At your age, an unplanned pregnancy is a consequence you don't want to pay.
