I have a controlling mother in law. She is bed bound and cant do much (Her own doing) her husband works and brings home money but demands my husband buy her whatever she wants or throws a tantrum and gets mad if we spend money on ourselves. Help?

U dont live with them so change your phone number and get some sleep

She will only do to you and your husband what you allow her to do. Your hubby has to put on his big boy pants and speak up to her. YOU and your forthcoming baby are his primary concerns.

To further explain, my husbands sister is graduating high school and his mom is throwing a tantrum and saying that she doesnt need to leave. She constantly questions my faithfulness to her son (never given her a reason) i am 6 months pregnant with his child and calls him constantly and demands money even though we spend our money on bills the coming baby and groceries. Cries when anyone tells her she needs to get out of bed and do something. Never goes anywhere or hardly does anything for his sister and claims she cant go because she can get sick or its too hot or too cold or something. Gets upset when me or my family buys anything for the coming baby. Me and my husband live on the other side of town and will get pissed off if someone says nk to her wishes or doesnt answer her phone calls and will turn everyone against you if she doesnt like something u said or did. I dont know what to do and me my husband and his sister are fed up.

Is his sister 18 yet? If so take the poor girl in. If not try to get permission from your husband's dad to take her in. Then you will just have to take charge. Well, actually your husband will have to take charge. He will just have to put his foot down and tell his mother that he needs to take care of his family first and then if  there is any money left over he will help out when he can.

If she is as bad as you say she, everyone will understand. She is a bully and you just have to quit giving into her. If he wants to play into her a bit he can tell her that he is dong what she raised him to do. He has grown up to take care of himself and his family.

She is one of those people who is never going to be happy no matter what you do, because she is not happy with herself. I have a mother-in-law the same way. We do a lot for her and when she complains about something we spent money on or that we are not doing enough for her, my husband reminds her how much he has done for her and still does for her. I have reminded her that her choices have landed her where she is and I don't plan to end up the same way. It took me a few years to get my husband to understand you cannot discuss our finances with her. Once he stopped she has asked for less. When she asks, he just says we have our own bills to pay. You, meaning you and your husband, just have to make the decision to put you and your baby first. Your other-in-law will either fall inline or she won't. If she doesn't you limit your time with her.