Why don't males find me attractive? I seem to have a lot of issues attracting males who like me in a more intimate sense. I have met quite a lot of males, yet I always seem to get friend zoned. Most people think that it is impossible for a girl to get put there, but I always end up there. Even when things are going in a positive direction something will change spontaneously and the guy that I am talking to will distance himself; it's very heart-rending. <br>

Darik Majoren answered

Perhaps, it is the way you carry yourself.

We all try and size each other up first by appearance, then how we communicate nonverbally. The way you hold your head or touch your face and hair. The stance you take while sitting, standing. . . . Arm position, whether it be crossed, down by your side or simply somewhat guarded . . . Sitting while leaning in versus sitting while leaning back . . . The micro-gestures the face muscles make.

If we can in closer, the pheromones we give off introduce another attraction point.

All of these subtle ways of communication are going on and have been as we evolved. They are subconsciously sending signals to those men you meet, and for some reason they are not registering as "Possible Mate" to them . . .

Perhaps you have just not met the right guy who is attracted to these things about you as of yet. Be patient.

otis campbell answered

Your trying to hard. If your too much drama or putting on a act guys will hit the door running. Be yourself

Cookie Roma answered

Whether one is a male or female, you must divest yourself of the notion of the "friend zone." The entire notion supposes that a person is obliged to have feelings for you because you want them to.

As far as why they don't have deeper feelings then they do? You are very young and pushing way to hard. Relax!! These things come in time.......don't push it. C

Arthur Wright , Florida Paralegal with a BS degree in Social-Psychology, answered

Time to do some deep soul searching here about yourself and find out what you are afraid of most here. Are you afraid of boys or the commitment of a relationship, or maybe something else like growing up in an abusive family scenario involving a Father or Brother or such. The reason here is inside you and you must find it and bring it out so you can fix it and move on in life. You are sabotaging your own life here and it really isn't the guys you meet so I sense a fear of commitment which is more prevalent in boys than girls so this would be rare here but does happen. You may even need some professional medical help here overcoming your challenge but please do whatever it takes so you can enjoy life and move on. Good luck

Tom Jackson answered

I noticed in one of your comments that you may have decided to leave the "subject of dating alone for some time."

It concerns me that you have had a number of "losing seasons" and you really need a series of "winning ones" to get that "bad taste" out of your mouth.

I don't know your age, I don't have your picture. And I'm not entirely clear on what you mean when you say "like me in a more intimate sense" and "positive direction." (My problem, not yours; but it makes it difficult for me to really evaluate your situation and give you any helpful advice.)

A few short sessions with a professional (therapist/counselor) could give you a great deal of insight into the specific situations you are finding yourself in, and provide some suggestions on how to change future outcomes when you meet the next male you would like to have a more rewarding relationship with.

Best of luck---I fully expect a positive outcome for your situation.

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