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Some of my retirement funds have decreased. How can I ask boyfriend to help with gas when his car isn't running and he isn't getting it repaired. We may have to get around in my car, but I don't want to burn all my gas. He has the extra money?

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Barb Cala Profile
Barb Cala answered

Just say you expect him to share in the gas expenses.  If he won't, then tell him to find his own way to get around. 

Lard Ass Profile
Lard Ass answered

You shouldn't have to ask.....if he won't help you with the gas, tell him to catch a bus.

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Arthur Wright , Florida Paralegal with a BS degree in Social-Psychology, answered

Time for some love here as Im positive this isn't a one-sided relationship and all relationships are a give and take type of thing. So if he doesn't want to help around there, cut him off and see how quickly he reacts. Sometimes Guys have to be told they are NOT Gods gift to women and that women are NOT put here to take care of their every whim, and that they wont die if they put something more into a relationship other than the bedroom. Hes taking you for granted here so time to change the rules of the game and trust me, he will be alright, and youll be better for it otherwise tell him to hit the road and find someone else. Good luck

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Danae Hitch answered

"Bob, since your car has broken down and is now in the shop, I would be happy to take you places if you were to help with giving me gas money to do so. Otherwise, I can't afford to help you in that way (giving you rides). I have been forced to watch my expenses due to my current financial situation and don't have the budget to allocate more money to gas expenses."

Now the ball is in his court. You've told him that you can help get him around if he were to help with gas money. If he doesn't want to help fork over money to help you, then you need to stand by your word and not help him get rides. That's his problem, not yours.

If you cave on this because you feel sorry for him, then I would re-think your position. What's the point of asking for his help only to turn around and say it doesn't matter and puts you in a bad financial pinch?

His car breaking down isn't your problem - it's his. I'm not trying to be hard-hearted here, but if he isn't willing to fork over $40 to fill up your gas tank, that tells you just what he thinks of you.

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