SO my "friend" who i dont really like for numerous reasons,(but calls me her bff) hits me a lot. and then laughs when i say it hurts, like its a joke. I'm not sure i want to even be her friend, plus she talks down to me a lot and i cant take it?

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PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

So don't. Tell her you don't like being hit or humilated and if she doesn't stop you will no longer hang around her. Then if she doesn't stop, then you walk away.

Smiley Crankenhoof Profile

If you have siblings or close friends, tell them what you have going on and practice tripping and punching techniques with them. The next time she hits you, you will have the perfect opportunity to trip her, then punch her while she's down. If she complains, tell her, "Now you see how it feels."

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Don Barzini answered

This is NOT a friend and you deserve better. If you get hit again, hit back harder. Either way, I suggest it's time to separate yourself from this abuse and get next to a new friend.

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Don Barzini
Don Barzini commented
Free yourself of this manipulator, Sophia. Think of the stress that leaves with her. You deserve to be treated with respect.
Don Barzini
Don Barzini commented
Free yourself of this manipulator, Sophia. Think of the stress that leaves with her. You deserve to be treated with respect.
Sophia Tortilla
Sophia Tortilla commented
Thank you very much.. I'm going to try to be more stern and serious with her
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Danae Hitch answered

Your fear of her proves that she is really not your friend. A true friend wouldn't try to control your movements, your thoughts, your behavior.

As for the threats to tell your parents your secrets, I'm pretty sure that either your parents already know some of your secrets, or have done the same things themselves when they were young.

Don't let fear drive this train, Sophia. You can do a controlled drop of this friendship, such as stop returning her texts or emails, blocking her from social media, not sitting with her at lunch, etc. Until you get to the point where you don't really have any contact with her.

If she tries the "I'm going to tell your parents" crap with her, just smile and say, "that's ok; I've already talked to them" or "do you have my mom's number, or do you need it?" Call her bluff. You'll find other friends to hang out with.  I would rather be by myself than to hang out with someone like her truthfully.

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