If she is physically abusive, make sure you meet in a nice public place. And be prepared to just walk away if she starts anything.
I used to live with my mom who physically abused me for 14 years finally I decided to move in with my father but now know my daddy is verbally abusive. My mother wants to meet me this Friday and I'm so afraid. Am I overreacting or is this normal?
Uh hey, work toward forgiving your mother. This is one of the most difficult aspects of overcoming an abusive relationship, but holding on to your anger will keep you from fully healing. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that we excuse offensive behaviour; it doesn’t mean forgetting or even trusting the person who harmed us.
Instead, think of forgiveness as a gift you are giving yourself. You are letting go of any negative or vengeful feelings because you don't want to be trapped by your mother’s bitterness or pain.
If you're uncomfortable being around your mother because of past abuse then just don't meet her and if necessary tell her why.
You have no obligations towards your mother who hurt you for all those years, if you let fear control you because she has said she wants to meet you then she's still got a hold over you. It's time to stand up to her, tell her no, The first time you stand up to her will be difficult but after that you'll feel stronger.
You take control of this situation, nobody should be abused for all those years and by the one person who should have protected you. As a mother this makes me very angry.
I can understand how you feel when you think of your mother... Any type of physical abuse is not tolerable in a relation and you should not allow fear to control you. Fourteen years is a very long time and you should not allow your mom to take advantage of you again... If possible tell your father or anyone else who is close to you about the situation.. It might help...
Youre facing an uncertainity here so youre feelings are quite normal since you have no idea what may happen here. It sounds like youre stuck in the middle here of two bad parents so you may have to choose here and it doesn't sound like its going to be easy but think about which one youre better off living with here. Good luck and Happy Thanksgiving and Holidays
You don't say how old you are. You don't say what you are doing to get this reaction from your parents. While being abusive is never acceptable, it might be that they just don't know how to respond to what you are doing. It is very hard to give direction when you only hear one side. I think having someone that you both respect and is qualified to help be asked to listen to both sides and give some direction after getting all the facts. Just to let you know, being a parent is not the easiest thing to do. Children are bringing unheard of problems to the equation and parents find themselves in uncharted waters.