Is it wrong that I let my "sister" (a really close female friend) sit on my lap during a party with my girlfriend sitting right next to us? And Is my gf 's reaction wrong? (See comments for details)

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Rooster Cogburn Profile
Rooster Cogburn , Rooster Cogburn, answered

I don't know if it's wrong or not but it kind of depends on what your girlfriend had to say about it. If she was mad, I could see why. If she was OK with it then I see no problem with it as long as she is your good friend! Was your girlfriend upset about it? If so, I don't think you should let that happen again.

crow robot Profile
crow robot answered

You screwed the pooch on that one

PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

It is disrespectful to your girlfriend. If you can't see that, then you are not mature enough to be in a relationship.

Matt Radiance Profile
Matt Radiance answered

It's entirely individual.

These kind of actions depends on couples and each gonna be vary. If your girlfriend is fine with it then is fine.  If not, then it's not.  It's called mutual communication and respect in each other's will.

In my relationship, these things are fine to me and my girlfriend. We have group of best friends which me and her both knows them and we live in trust and friendship and we have not such problems.

But since your girlfriend left with your guy friend and you still didn't talked with her after two days! Means she's got something about it! Which you need to follow to makes her comfortable and respect her will from now on and make sure you know her pretty well! It's not that hard! Explore her personality and be open to discussions, make sure to know her and respect the way she thinks if you wanna be with her.

Bikergirl Anonymous Profile

Right or wrong is irrelevant .. If your girlfriend is uncomfortable with that level of physical contact then there are going to be consequences . You can claim there's nothing wrong with it all you like, but she will still react to how it makes her feel .

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Kenneth Roberts
Kenneth Roberts commented
We both asked her if she was okay with this and she said nothing normally if any other girl thats a sign to back off but my girlfriend will ALWAYS and is known to speak her mind. Moments later she gets up and walks off with my best male friend for 2 HOURS!!! Its been two days and we've never talked since me and my guy friend are still good friends though since he guaranteed me they didn't do anything.
Bikergirl Anonymous
So do you really think she would say any differently when you put her on the spot in a socially controlled environment? My guess is her response to your asking was under duress and disbelief that you would even ask.

Her adding to the dysfunction in your relationship by 'going off' with your friend was probably an attempt to 'teach you a lesson'. Personally, in my opinion THAT was as wrong as what you did, and two wrongs don't make a right.

Looks like you both have some growing up to do in terms of honesty and communication and understanding the boundaries of your own relationship.
Walt O'Reagun Profile
Walt O'Reagun answered

From reading your responses to the other answers ... The fact that you asked her at the time makes it obvious you have no clue, and shouldn't be in a relationship.

For a non-blood-relative to sit in another person's lap has sexual implications.  For you to let your female pal do so, in front of your girlfriend, was HIGHLY disrespectful (at the least).  And it was likely a challenge from your "gal pal" towards your "girlfriend".

Cookie Roma Profile
Cookie Roma answered

So imagine that your girlfriend had a brother (a guy that she was really good friends with ) and she sat on his lap while you were sitting right there.  How would you feel?  Perhaps the words you're looking for is incredibly disrespected. 

Jade King Profile
Jade King answered

Oh of course she wasn't okay with it. That's why she went off with your mate, she was jealous and wanted to make you feel the same way. You don't let another chick sit on your lap even if it was a friend. Whether it was right in front of your girl or not. If she sat on another mans lap, how would you feel?

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