Why is a man criticized for being sexist when he says he doesn't like larger women, but it's acceptable for a woman to reject a man based on his height? (like saying "I don't date guys shorter than me")


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Didge Doo Profile
Didge Doo answered

Your question is actually a good illustration of why some are accused of sexism. Did you notice that you used different terms in describing men and women? "Larger women" implies fat, obese, or *ah* big boned. "Shorter" makes a statement about a particular attribute: Height.

Perhaps it's generalisations or unwitting slurs that are considered sexist.

Don't take that as criticism. I was just amused by your use of different language in describing men and women.

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Pedro Gonzalez
Pedro Gonzalez commented
That was what I intended. Men are called jerks for saying they wouldn't date fat women (even though weight can be lost) but if a woman says she doesn't date short men that is acceptable even though it is judging a book by it's cover all the same (and height cannot be changed)
Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
Fair enough. I'm not going to take you to task for it. I'm not very politically correct, either. :)
Taylor Brookes Profile
Taylor Brookes answered

I have no idea, but I don't think its fair. Especially as, in your example, you cannot control your height but you can control your weight, yet those are both very real things that people say.

Cookie Roma Profile
Cookie Roma answered

I wasn't aware it WAS aware that it was okay for women to say that.

PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

Who says it is ok? Judging people on their looks is just plain narrow minded, regardless of the gender.

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