My ex and I were close but he doesn't want a committed relationship. I respected his decision n stopped communicating. I'm now with my current bf whom I love dearly. How do I forget my ex when my bf reminds me of him (they are alike)?

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My ex and I were close but he doesn't want a committed relationship. I respected his decision n stopped communicating. I'm now with my current bf whom I love dearly. How do I forget my ex when my bf reminds me of him (they are alike)?

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Answer 1

Looks like you made a fatal mistake here in that you found someone identical to the one you broke up with and now its coming around to haunt you. There really isn't much you can do here as youre still hung up on your ex and til you get over that completely, youll always be reminded of him with new BF. You don't say how long between breakup and new BF but I suspect it was a rebound and done quickly so you didn't have time to get over ex first before moving on so now you just have to deal with this. At least you understand whats happening here which is a plus but don't start comparing each or this relationship will self destruct. Good luck

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firstly this is a very complicated thing you're going through , first thing was I can't blame you for still thinking about your ex , as he was the one who didn't want commitment , and now you are dating your current boyfriend who you love . Firstly I think you should figure out if you still like/love your ex , because honestly its pretty confusing if you don't know whether you still like your ex boyfriend , this doesn't necessarily be bad if your current reminds you a lot of your ex , though if it doesn't feel right with the current because you keep remembering your ex bf when you do things with your current boyfriend you should try to not think about your ex and focus on your current relationship , try to see their differences but don't try to see which one is better and obsess over your ex and think too much about him.