Why Is It So Hard For Mothers And Daughters, Generally, To Have A Positive Relationship When Daughter Grows Up?

Hi, I think Mothers and Daughters have troubled relationships, because Mothers will not let the daughters become their equals as an Adult. Daughters are taught by their Mothers how to run a house whole at a very young age. Then when the Daughter reaches a curtain age, she wants to start running her life. The Mother then feels she is losing control over her Daughter and that's when the problems start. We would like our Daughters to be responsible and independent adults, but we also want them to be respectful to us. It is very hard for a Mother to release control of their daughter, because she knows what pitfalls there are in life. Most men or boys can protect themselves, but the Mother feels that their daughters are defenseless against the up and downs of life. This struggle between Mothers and Daughter have existed most likely from the beginning of time and will continued on for Centuries to come, but in the end they will still love each other. Take care

I don't believe it is so hard to maintain a mother and daughter relationship. In our part of the world the daughter loves and cares her mother as much as she could. They think and believe that the heaven lies under the feet of mother. It is in some religions and societies where the woman is disgraced. All depends upon the teachings of the religion.

I think if we mothers are not careful, we will try to re live our lives through our daughters. We want to be their friends and then steer them toward the things we wanted when we were growing up. As our daughters go their own way, we see it as rebellion and disrespect. In reality we are the ones being disrespectful by not allowing or respecting the fact that our daughters are individuals apart from us.