How Can One Stop Being Gay? I Know The Sexual Attraction Cannot Be Stopped, But Being Bi-curious Is Destroying My Life.I Have Dated Several Girls, Some Up To 6months Others For 2-3 Weeks, Some For 2ish Months... Until Recently When I Met This Guy.

This is such a difficult question, that I almost bypassed it. However, I felt led to reply, even though I didn't really want too. The reason I didn't want too, is I have a sister and an adopted "son" that are both gay, and I love them very much. So, it is almost a conflict of interest for me. The reason is, the bible teaches one should not be gay, but a man should love a woman, and a woman should love a man.

I told you about my personal stuff, cause I want you to know that I am NOT a bigot, and I understand those feelings, from some ppl that I love dearly. But, if you are a Christian, it goes against your beliefs. If you want to stop being gay, I would recommend calling your pastor, or any pastor, for GOOD advice.

The have sexual reorientation classes some places. Maybe you could look them up online. I'm here, if I can be of any help at all, if even to just listen.

Love & Light, Gina

You can "stop" being gay.  I did. 

I was lesbian between age 27 and age 35.  I'm 45, heterosexual and now openly, happily into men only.  It was a decision.

In men, it's a little tougher.  But women can and absolutely do decide our sexual orientation and millions of us to that, every single day.

If you're male, I have no advice for you because nothing is going to work.  You're going to chase that d*** to the end of the earth and the mighty chains of Fenrir wouldn't be able to stop you.  If you were female, then yes, I would have some advice for you.  I'd tell you to start with your parents, and especially anger at your father and how he treated your mother.  Because in my case and in the case of almost every ex-lesbian I ever met, that's exactly where the source file was. 

You can't fight how you feel, if you are feeling like you are possibly in love with him and can't stop thinking about him then it's NOT just a friendship kind of love you feel for this person... Why do you need to stop feeling the way you do?? Trying to stop something that is coming to you naturally is going to be to stressful on your self...how does this guy feel about you? Whether your are gay, bi, or straight the way you feel about someone can't be helped....you sound so tortured I hope this has helped some...good luck