What do I do? Been married 12 yrs, but my husband & I have never had s*x.

Arthur Wright answered

Then by law your marriage has never been consumated so its not binding if never ever had sex so you legally arent married if this is true so is there or not, as many marrriages survive without but if this is the case, file for divorce on grounds that he can't hold up his end or dereliction of husbands duty

Alvina Tahir answered

If he is dirty and messy my sources say he must also be a heavy sleeper.

You can either strip him down when he's asleep and have sex
or:

Whenever he takes a shower wait outside the bathroom strip down(lock the door)
when you hear the shower stop immediatly barge in throm him on the floor put his
d**k in your p**sy and have bathroom sex he's bound to los control and reply with something if you know what I mean *wink , wink*