My younger brother always getting away for being mean to me. We got a lot of snow today and he through ice at my face. I told my mom and she said to stop being a tattle tale. And when ever my brother tattles on me I get in trouble. I don't think its fair just because hes the younger one. And my older brother is always being mean to me also. He makes mean faces and says bad stuff to me. When I tell my mom she still tells me to stop being a tattle tale. It seems like my brothers team up and try to get me in trouble. I don't know why they hate me so much.
I have the exact same problem I'm only 11 and my brothers hate me and I don't know why like I'm a boy and they call me a girl. And they also don't show me stuff. One time I had to go to the hospital cause they broke my hand WITH FORCE and my mom and dad don't care dude I wish I can change spots with you somtimes I fell like I want to kill myself.but I enjoy life by listing to music and trying to avoid them so just try me idea which is. Ignor or play music or stay in your room till your mom and dad think something is wrong and/or go to a theripist and tell him about your brother like me and he will have to stop and if he doesnt you can get a restraining order against him but god I do want to die with my brothers they want no part of me in my life. I'm am sorry for you dude!
I really don't know what you can do other than ignore him. My brother is the same. My parents never do anything about it anyway and when I tell my parents he just gets madder and madder and I think he might try to seriously hurt me and the rest of my family. I'm pretty scared.
Thank goodness for Google because my brother use to hit me all the time growing up. He did it to really hurt me, I guess it made him feel better, and now we're both in our 20's and living in the same house and he still verbally attacks me. I know I shouldn't let it get to me, but its like I was trained to react to his words, cause it happened so much growing up. I can't offer any advice, I think my brother really has mental problems no joke. All I can do is offer comfort in knowing that you are not alone. I need that comfort myself because it still makes me cry.
If you anticipate his negative actions toward you, you will begin to fear him more. When he sees that fear then he is more likely to prove to you you're right and have every reason to fear him.Maybe you're "old" family routine hasn't provided enough in his life to help him realize the strength that comes from healthy family relationships.Please realize that is not your duty to provide him with what he needs, neither is it your parents duty to some degree. Be loud and defend yourself when he is approaching you to do something.Tell a doctor that your brother sprayed solvent in your eye and you just want to make sure it is ok. Maybe your parents will realize the degree of harm he is placing on you. If your parents will not take you to a doctor, then ask a school counselor what to do. Tell them what bothers you and don't be specific if you're afraid they will do something drastic. "My brother is terrorizing me and I'd rather be on the phone with my friends and going to the movies, I think he''s [fat and ugly]or[I wish he would go away to reform school]".If you're not safe in your own home then where are you safe?Pray at night for change and keep your hopes up. Be obedient to your mother and father because they love you and care about you.
I feel your pain. My brother is about 3 years older than me and he is a total jerk. He never stops criticizing and hurting me (even when I have done nothing). We have such a bad relationship that we can't be in the same room without fighting. This probably is a last resort kind of thing, but recently I have been trying to start a fight with him so I can kick his butt. We have grown so distant that I feel this is the only way to get respect. If you feel like me, I recommend you try this. If you beat him up, he will fear you.
Your brother is pushing the boundaries he is trying to see what he can get away with your reaction is his real motivation behind it. He enjoys getting a reaction and the fact that MUM and DAD don't do anything about it is his confirmation that you are just a whinger. If I were you I would learn some self defense not so much that you should beat him up, more so that you can learn to have self-confidence. No one ever picks on a person who is confident... Especially someone like your brother who is a BULLY.
M living the sam thing with my brother it's exactly like me.he hates me and I really do not understand why...and my parents never do anything ."he is always right, I am always wrong" It's killing me I even thought someday I should suicide but thanks got I still have friends that encourage me and helped me to figure it out and well the solution is : Never ever talking to him again now there has been a mont we don't talk I will not say that M okay because it's hurting me deep inside but I think I'm feeling so much better.
I swear that my brother hated me growing up. It was because I was the youngest and I took some of the attention away from him. It happens. You guys will grow up and I promise you that you will laugh about it. My oldest sisters are 15 months apart and I thought they would kill each other growing up. They scared me to death with their fights. They are best friends now. But the best thing I learned when I was a kid was just to stay out of his way and leave him alone. My parents never did anything either and always told me to stop whining. They still tell me that I exaggerate everything that happened when we were kids.
It is just a normal boy and girl thing. This has happened to me. Just talk to a close family member about it and ask them to to talk to him. My advice is to just give them time,stay out of their way and do not tell of him,him will want to pay you back.
I am 45 and my brother is 41. My brother moved far away from our family, to the opposite coast. If I call him, he doesn't pick up the phone; if I leave a message, he might not call for a week. I feel strong love for him, but he is very critical of me often when I visit him, saying nasty things about me in front of other people, and sometimes exploding in anger over what seem like small things. This has been going on since the summer he was 15 and I was 19. Our parents split up when I was 18 and away at college, and my mom had an ex-alcoholic move in to live with her. I came back from college that summer and my brother would have nothing to do with me, even though I was lonely because I had lived away and he still had lots of friends in the area. Later when I was 26 and he was 22 we had the chance to live together for a year and he told me how awful it would be but went ahead with it because I would pay more rent and he wanted to move out of my mom's house. We lived together and got along fine (I think - we didn't fight or anything, and threw some parties together, and he enjoyed going out for beers with me). It's painful loving him and having him seem very upset with me. I think maybe he's mad a bit at my parents for their divorce. I feel bad I wasn't there to help him. He used to blame me a lot for fighting with him when we were kids (about 15 years ago he would say a lot, "You used to beat me up when we were kids"). It's true we did rough house, but I never ever pushed it into true "I am trying to hurt you" territory and he acknowledges that. I think, "Heck, I was only 9 years old myself, what did I know?" It seems to me most brothers and sisters do some rough housing. Anyway, the whole situation is really hard. I feel like there's no solution. He won't even acknowledge there's a problem. As far as he's concerned, the only problem is that I'm a big jerk. What's weird is sometimes we have really good conversations - we have a similar world view and sense of humor and are similar enough as people that it's pleasurable for us to interact. That makes it all the sadder. I wish I could change things. I am going to get some books on sibling rivalry. I noticed he warmed up to me a little when I lost my job, like that somehow made me easier to like because I had suffered. For now I have stopped calling him or texting him and I just let him call me when he wants to. It was too painful to call and be ignored, and I felt insulted. I can't make him call me, but I can control what I do, so I can not call.
I am so sorry that your brother is so cruel and does mean things to you, and even sorrier that your parents won't do anything. There is sibling rivalry, but this sounds more severe than that, I don't know what to tell you, revenge will not GE good because he may retaliate. All I can say is keep telling your parents, maybe even a school counselor. And try to avoid being in the house alone with him if at all possible. And show him kindness, like the way you want to be treated- it is hard to do I know. God bless.
Hey look I'm in the same spot as you are.my two bros hate me, if you want to run away ,try going to some relatives maybe ,uncles or aunts or even grandparents don't go somewhere that no one knows you,kus well if something happens to you ,whos gona know or care for that matter
When he gets older an tries to have a family of his own the behavior will be transferred to his kids or wife. He needs professional help before it is too late. He hurts you because he is sick.
I swear my brother hates me kus ween I was 6 he stabbed me an inch away from my hart and and he is younger then me and he is always being mean to me so I need help I need to get rid of him
I know because my brother is the same but when he hurts or something I ignore him or go and I do almost the same to him but if you get angry hold it in.
I really don't know how to help out but... My brother on one hand he loves me and on the other one he hates me; ( just like my dad did) he never lets me use his stuff :/ but he really loves me too. ( oh and umm... No homo :D)
That is a really bad answer, and I rated it accordingly. How old is your brother? He doesn't sound very old to me. Very immature. I had brothers, not just one, that would pick on me, and our others sisters too. It really is a stage that brothers go through, and I am sorry that you have to endure this. Sounds like you should douse his bed with salt to make him itch all night long. Put preparation H in his toothpaste bottle. Don't run away, there isn't anything good going to happen from that. There are too many bad things that can happen to you out there. Please let me know when you put the salt in his bed.
My brother hates me too, I'm 3 years apart from him and I'm a girl. I think he hates me because I have proof that he smokes and drink at age 16. I told my mom about the smoking and drinking , even my whole family I told them all! They are just too lazy to do anything or they don't want to deal with it. He goes to jail once and cryed and my mom pay for him to get out and he stills do it pluss has whore girls who been buying his smoke. I just wish my mom just leave him in jail. He been treating our family badly, once he hit my mom because my mom trying to hit him cause he went out with his bad friends and going somewhere , maby drinking clubs. Does your brother do that?
My friend has a brother that pins her to the ground and hits her and puches her and her parents won`t belive her.my mother studies about children behavrios and you might hate your parents when you are grown up.you should investigate his room to see if he is doing drugs or anything cause that can be the cause of this.
Sibling rivalry can be brutal. I was tough on my little brother growing up, we didn't have a Dad so it seemed like the right thing to do for his sake. He made something out of himself, very successful and so did I. Yet still, in our 40's we don't get along. He's got so much anger toward me and threatens to kill me over it. I know I could still kick his ass, I'm trained in jiu jitsu and outweigh him by 20 pounds. Still, I let him go off, never raise a hand to him. He blocks me from his phone as well. Maybe its time to move on and forget the chump!
Maybe You Are Doing Something To Make Him Hate You Like .... What Do You Do To Him Tease Him With His Stuff Steal His Stuff Maybe Even Blame Things On Him ? Well STOP Doing That Then Then He Might Start LOVING YOU !!
