Oscar De La Huerte answered
If you're planning to try and dominate your boyfriend in the bedroom, the best thing to do is to sit down and talk to him first. Often, sitting down with a glass of wine (or your favourite tipple) and having a chat with your partner about sex is the healthiest and best way to approach your sex life.
What is sexual domination?
Spending some time finding out exactly what sexual domination actually means is the first thing you should do. It may even be an idea to do some research on the topic with your boyfriend.
Sexual domination will mean different things to different people. For some, a dominating lover is simply one who takes the lead or takes charge during a sexual encounter.
For others, the term domination refers to a type of sexual 'power play' where one participant assumes complete control of the other. Often sexual gratification is intensified for participants by their role in this scenario - and, for the dominant partner, the sense of power and the ability to assert control over someone is as much a turn-on as is the physical side of things.
For a submissive, sexual pleasure is derived from feelings of helplessness and even humiliation.
What is BDSM?
The terms 'domination' and 'submission' form part of the overlapping acronym BDSM (or Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission, Sado-Masochism).
BDSM is used to describe a plethora of sexual activities that often involve the use of status and power-play as a means of sexual expression and gratification. If this sounds like something that you're interested in, perhaps a good idea would be to check out the numerous websites, on-line communities and even nightclubs that cater to this particular penchant.
Your boyfriend and your sex life
Sitting down and discussing things with your boyfriend is probably a good idea if you're thinking about trying out 'dominant sex'. It allows you both to understand each other's needs and perspectives. This will also allow you to understand how far he'd like you to take the 'domination' role, and what kind of sexual activities he'd enjoy.
What is sexual domination?
Spending some time finding out exactly what sexual domination actually means is the first thing you should do. It may even be an idea to do some research on the topic with your boyfriend.
Sexual domination will mean different things to different people. For some, a dominating lover is simply one who takes the lead or takes charge during a sexual encounter.
For others, the term domination refers to a type of sexual 'power play' where one participant assumes complete control of the other. Often sexual gratification is intensified for participants by their role in this scenario - and, for the dominant partner, the sense of power and the ability to assert control over someone is as much a turn-on as is the physical side of things.
For a submissive, sexual pleasure is derived from feelings of helplessness and even humiliation.
What is BDSM?
The terms 'domination' and 'submission' form part of the overlapping acronym BDSM (or Bondage & Discipline, Domination & Submission, Sado-Masochism).
BDSM is used to describe a plethora of sexual activities that often involve the use of status and power-play as a means of sexual expression and gratification. If this sounds like something that you're interested in, perhaps a good idea would be to check out the numerous websites, on-line communities and even nightclubs that cater to this particular penchant.
Your boyfriend and your sex life
Sitting down and discussing things with your boyfriend is probably a good idea if you're thinking about trying out 'dominant sex'. It allows you both to understand each other's needs and perspectives. This will also allow you to understand how far he'd like you to take the 'domination' role, and what kind of sexual activities he'd enjoy.
