My Boyfriend Wants Me To Dress Up As A Schoolgirl. Is This Normal Or Is He A Pervert?

It's a power play and most sexual fantasies are about power. It's normal in a male to want to dominate and by being an Innocent schoolgirl (pretending) he feels he has dominated you.

Also a virgin fantasy maybe that he wants again to feel like the only one, all-powerful, dominating male with a submissive female. It gets his testosterone pumping.

As long as the domination is not taken too far it actually will only release his protective instincts for you. Any fantasies are just a play in most cases and don't mean that the person actually wants to fulfill them. That's why they are a fantasy and not fact.

If he was doing this for real, he wouldn't need to ask you to play it out with him. As long as it doesn't become obsessive there is nothing to worry about.

Perfectly normal - it's nothing to do with schoolgirls as such but just that the pleated school skirts they wear are just so sexy.

He is normal.

Haha, I think it's cute. As long as it doesn't bother you, it's a lot of fun. Sometimes sex can become predictable and this is a completely normal and fun way to spice things up.

Maybe he wants to see what you looked like when you were at school.

The answer is very simple:

As it was said above, men start feeling sexual desires in their early 10s; and during those times most girls they know are outfitted in school  mini-skirts where they boast their developing legs (not sure why schools allow such outfits).

This turns-on any male at any age, but when teenagers, these desires cannot be fullfilled (well, they can, but it would be very difficult) and that leads mens kind of keep that unfullfilled wish.

Once grown-up, they're of course mature enough to know that it would be damaging to make sex to a true innocent schoolgirl, and they don't necessarily want that (unless they're indeed pervert or pedophile, which is a different topic here); but looking at a sexy schoolgirl brings them back their unfullfilled desireds of his own teenage days, and turns him on again.

There is absolutely no sex fantasy known to man that is unhealthy as long as both participants agree to it.

Make him do something for you. You'll find that a little fantasy can be fun.

This is a common fantasy, I will explain what I believe to be the root of it and further explain why it is not perverse, but perhaps why it doesn't help your intimate life or your boyfriend's mental state.

Firstly, it is a very common fantasy, p-o-r-n often plays on it.

I thoroughly believe that men do not want the schoolgirl in the way we might think, it is not a hankering for a teenage girl, instead it is a hankering after what was not achieved in the adolescence of the male.

I would be surprised if those who had sex lives during their school days actually had these fantasies at all because they were often successful, whereas those who were not, still want them.

Why do I think this? It is because that the strongest urges and feelings of hormone enduced sexuality occurred at the moment when the male could least actually get any sexual contact. This leaves him with a desire he cannot fill.

I feel that this desire does not actually leave. He doesn't want a schoolgirl, he wants you fulfil an old desire which the schoolgirl outfit fulfils for him.

Lastly, the reason I think it is unhealthy is that he must get past this desire and he must make love to you, not a schoolgirl from his past.

I say go ahead if you're married. But if not, wait for sex.