Oscar De La Huerte answered
Sounds to me like you are both going through a difficult time coming to terms with the implications of your son's sexuality. I would recommend that you not worry too much about exactly what your son chooses to wear, but rather focus on communicating with your son and opening up a dialogue about what you are both feeling.
My son wants a sex change!
There are various factors that will affect the relationship between parent and son when it comes down to views on sexual identity.
Some parents might be able to accept and love their son regardless of whether he wants to be a man, woman or turnip.
For most of us though, our views on sexuality will be heavily influenced by everything from the social environment we grew up in, through to our own Freudian relationship with our parents.
What I'm trying to say is that, just as there isn't anything wrong with your son wanting to explore his feminine side, there's nothing wrong with you feeling anything from awkwardness to sheer terror.
The key is to remember that, regardless of everything, your relationship with your son is what is most important.
How to dress my sex change son
In this context, I'd suggest that you sit down and discuss the issue of clothing with your son. Explain to him that you'll try and support his decision to try wearing feminine attire, but also put across your reservations in a calm and non-confrontational manner. Making your son feel like he can open up and discuss this issue with you will help both of you.
Perhaps you could spend time shopping for clothes or looking at magazines together. This will allow you to bond, and will make sure he doesn't go overboard and make you feel uncomfortable with his fashion choices. If you disagree on an item of clothing, try suggesting an alternative item. This will encourage you to approach the situation in a more positive and parental way.
My son wants a sex change!
There are various factors that will affect the relationship between parent and son when it comes down to views on sexual identity.
Some parents might be able to accept and love their son regardless of whether he wants to be a man, woman or turnip.
For most of us though, our views on sexuality will be heavily influenced by everything from the social environment we grew up in, through to our own Freudian relationship with our parents.
What I'm trying to say is that, just as there isn't anything wrong with your son wanting to explore his feminine side, there's nothing wrong with you feeling anything from awkwardness to sheer terror.
The key is to remember that, regardless of everything, your relationship with your son is what is most important.
How to dress my sex change son
In this context, I'd suggest that you sit down and discuss the issue of clothing with your son. Explain to him that you'll try and support his decision to try wearing feminine attire, but also put across your reservations in a calm and non-confrontational manner. Making your son feel like he can open up and discuss this issue with you will help both of you.
Perhaps you could spend time shopping for clothes or looking at magazines together. This will allow you to bond, and will make sure he doesn't go overboard and make you feel uncomfortable with his fashion choices. If you disagree on an item of clothing, try suggesting an alternative item. This will encourage you to approach the situation in a more positive and parental way.
