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My boyfriend want to have sex but i am 14?

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Concern Wright Profile
Concern Wright answered

ANONYMOUS........."IS IT BETTER TO GIVE IN?  YOU MIGHT ASK.  "AFTER ALL, ISN'T EVERYONE HAVING SEX?

STOP AND THINK!!!!

DISTRESS -  MOST YOUTHS WHO HAVE ENGAGED IN PREMARITAL SEX SAY THAT THEY REGRETTED IT AFTERWARD.

"HOW ABOUT DISTRUST" -  AFTER HAVING SEX, EACH PARTNER BEGINS TO WONDER, WHO ELSE HAS HE/SHE HAD SEX WITH?

DISILLUSIONMENT - DEEP DOWN, MANY GIRLS WOULD PREFER SOMEONE WHO WILL PROTECT THEM, NOT USE THEM.  AND MANY BOYS FIND THAT THEY ARE LESS ATTRACTED TO A GIRL WHO HAS GIVEN IN TO THEIR ADVANCES.

YOU HAVE A CHOICE AS TO HOW YOUR BODY SHOULD BE TREATED.  NEVER ALLOW ANYONE TO BULLY YOU INTO  DOING SOMETHING YOU DON'T WANT TO DO.  AS A YOUNG PERSON DO YOU KNOW THE PROBLEMS THAT COULD ARISE FROM HAVING SEX?  SUCH AS  " UNWANTED PREGNANCIES, AND SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED DISEASES".  "SEX IS TOO SPECIAL A GIFT TO WASTE". 

HE BOTTOM LINE - YOUR BODY IS FAR TOO VALUABLE TO GIVE AWAY.  SHOW THAT YOU HAVE STRENGTH OF CHARACTER BY OBEYING GOD'S LAWS AGAINST HAVING PREMARITAL SEX.  YOU NEED TO KNOW WHAT YOU BELIEVE BEFORE YOU FACE PRESSURE OR TEMPTATION TO HAVE SEX.

REMEMBER:  YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE PROUD THAT YOU ARE A VIRGIN AND IT'S YOUR CHOICE TO REMAIN MORALLY CLEAN UNTIL YOU CAN MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY HANDLE THE PRESSURE AND RESPONSIBILITY THAT COMES WITH HAVING PREMARITAL SEX.

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Yin And Yang answered

Chances are you are not legally able to concent to sex at the very young age of 14. By law most states see you as not old enough to concent. By you NOT giving in, you are saving your "boyfriend" a possibility of being labelled a sex offender. Besides if you are not ready then he has NO say so! NO MEANS NO!

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PJ Stein answered

You made a statement, not asked a question. You just put a question mark at the end. I am not sayinying this to be judgemental, but to point out the underlying feeling that is coming across. Your boyfriend wants to have sex. You don't say you want to. You tell your age. That is coming across as you are nit ready. That you feel you are not mature enough for such a commitment. And it is a commitment. Having sex can change your life in many ways.

You could get pregnant, even if you use protection. You could get a disease. Some don't show symptoms in girls for months or even years. It is a decision that shouldn't be made lightly.

I would say from your "question" you don't want to. So don't. If your boyfriend doesn't undetstand or respect that, lose him. I know you care about him, but if he can't respect your decision to wait, he jyst plain doesn't respect you. That is not love.

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