I have health problems lately, boyfriend gets upset when I don't feel like having sex. He acts like it is his right and my responsibility. I am not sure how to handle. I feel guilty when I can't?


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Yin And Yang Profile
Yin And Yang answered

If he is that selfish then he needs to be by himself. Please love and respect yourself. No means no. You don't have to if you don't feel like it. Please think about getting rid of him.

Darik Majoren Profile
Darik Majoren answered

What he is saying is . . You are no longer an individual or person with rights. You are merely an object that he will USE  to "Relieve" himself.

Leave this guy, and give him the URL to SEVERAL web sites that will provide him with the THINGS designed for this.

You deserve better, and you deserve to be treated like a person with feelings. I hate this kind of mentality, and I hope you feel better.

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Yin And Yang
Yin And Yang commented
Beautiful words for her. ☺
Darik Majoren
Darik Majoren commented
I was livid when I read this, so this was the third edited version. This is the kind of justification people use to abuse others or consider it a "License to Cheat" . . .
No one has mental of physical rights to/over another person . . . that is called slavery.
PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

His right?... To your body?... I am sorry you are not feeling well, but you have bigger problems. You boyfriend doesn't really care about you and cares a lot about himself. I say pack your bags and get the hell out of there. Tell him if he wants sex, he can go ____ himself.

Pepper pot Profile
Pepper pot answered

Tell him you're not having sex with him because you don't want to, but because you don't feel well enough. My partner would never expect that of me when I am unwell, nor would I expect that of him. Sex for us is an expression of how we feel for eachother an intimacy, if you're man is looking at you as a quick relief and not a person it may be time to leave him. He can relieve himself with Mrs Palm and her five daughters.

Danae Hitch Profile
Danae Hitch answered

You might ask yourself - is it reasonable for someone to want their sexual appetite appeased when their partner is ill? Is it reasonable to whine about your lack of effort when it's obvious that you're not feeling well?

If the shoe were on the other foot, would you be accommodating to wait, if he were sick and you wanted to be intimate?

I would really take a look at this relationship. If he cannot wait until you feel better and constantly is pushing you to be intimate when you obviously don't feel well, what other things do you cave in on when he presses? Is this more about him taking and taking, without consideration for your needs and what you want?

Michael Poland Profile
Michael Poland answered

No person is an object.

You are a human being.

R.e.s.p.e.c.t. Find out what it means to me.

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