If you had a miscarriage before you told him you were pregnant, do you still tell him? Would you want to know?


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Jann Nikka Profile
Jann Nikka answered

Maybe...  But.... Husband yes, boyfriend maybe, casual sex, probably not. 

Lard Ass Profile
Lard Ass answered

Thankfully not something I've ever had to endure, but since you asked....a marriage is a partnership, a viable pregnancy is a shared experience...and when an unexpected and unfortunate miscarriage happens, I believe it should also be shared...he helped create the pregnancy and I think he should know what's happened so you can help each other through. Don't try to bear that information yourself, not fair to yourself or to him.

Didge Doo Profile
Didge Doo answered

There's np definitive answer to that one. It depends totally on the man and your relationship with him. (No, I don't mean whether or not you're married to him but whether that's the sort of intimacy you can normally share.)

We almost lost a child at birth so I understand the trauma of a miscarriage. Not all men do. Perhaps not all women do if they haven't had the experience. I'd want to be told because I'd want to be there for you.

dragonfly forty-six Profile

Yes. I'd tell him about both.

Transparency and honesty are always a positive thing in relationships. Besides I personally would not want to go through that without my partner. Even if it was after the fact. I'd need him for the love and support.

Woof Woofy Profile
Woof Woofy answered

if my mum hadn't miscarried 6 months along, i wouldn't be here right now. My mum fell pregnant again with me shortly after the misscarridge.

Tom  Jackson Profile
Tom Jackson answered

If you at all involved beyond casual sex, I can't imagine him not wanting to know.

If this is a long term relationship, this is something that, tragic as it may be, a reality that you must share with him.

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