I'm a 30 years old and after a lot of attempts at relationships with guys and girls I find that I'd rather be single (90% of the time) but still want a relationship (10% of the time). Is that strange? Or am I just having a midlife crisis?


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Danae Hitch Profile
Danae Hitch answered

You will go through all different kinds of situations as you get older. When I turned 50, I thought the world had come to an end and started dating after being single for many, many years.

Now that I'm looking at 60, I don't care any longer. I strive to be happy in who I am and that's enough for me right now. Who knows what I will feel in 2, 5, or 10 years from now? I surely don't.

My advice - be happy in whatever stage of life you are in right now. If you are unhappy, then you need to puzzle through why you are dissatisfied so that you can improve it. Good luck!

Barb Cala Profile
Barb Cala answered

You just haven't met the right person for you yet and are looking for logical reasons.  Just live your life and don't try to analyze things like this.  Find your own personal happiness independent on having someone else in your life all the time.  You'll be more "attractive" that way and make better choices too.

PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

When I was 30ish, I gave up on being in a relationship. So I started focusing on other aspects of my life. I was looking for a house to buy and looking for a better job. Once I took the focus off having a relationship I met someone. We have been married for 19 years.

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