My boyfriend of 5 years recently stops answering my texts for weeks at a time with no explanation. He sent "We need to talk..." out of no where and hasn't answered since that text. it's been over a week. I have severe anxiety... help???


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Cookie Roma Profile
Cookie Roma answered

He hasn't answered for weeks? How often do you see each other?

Barb Cala Profile
Barb Cala answered

Do you not speak to each other in person?  Not sure if you have been with him for 5 years .. Why you would depend so much on texting .. Especially if there's a problem.

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Kaitlynn Webb commented
We do, but we haven't seen each other in a few months, and since then he started doing all of that. There didn't seem to be a problem until he started not answering. Even when we saw eachother in person we talked for hours over the phone and now I can't even get a simple text back out of him.
Jann Nikka Profile
Jann Nikka answered

Face to face meeting. Today. Texts games will not yield you a solution.

Danae Hitch Profile
Danae Hitch answered

I'm not sure I would consider this guy my boyfriend, unless there is more to this story.

If you guys have been dating for 5 years and he does this to you - not answer your text messages, I would re-think why I'm "in a relationship" with him in the first place.

In the second place, if text messaging is your primary source of communicating, I would re-think that. People need face-to-face communication in order to get to know each other.

You need to get to the bottom of this for two reasons: (1) You need to resolve the gf / bf piece of this and (2) it will help your anxiety to find out where you stand. Are you content with the way things are? If not, change them. You don't need this type of aggravation.

PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

Well, I would say that your relationship is over. I know you are thinking that is a bad thing, especially with your anxiety. But let give you a new perspective on that. The way things are going right now are much more stressful than just ending it. You can now not worry about whether or not he is texting and you can go about YOUR life.

In other words, let go of him and the stress he is causing you. Start focusing on you and your life. Go hang out with your friends and do things you want to do.

Arthur Wright Profile
Arthur Wright , Florida Paralegal with a BS degree in Social-Psychology, answered

Hate to say this but it sounds like your BF has transgressed in age to a point where its macho for him to play little kid games here like tell you one thing but do another. Personally Id tell him that you've moved on and tell him to grow up and hang up and dont get into a argument with him and then move on and don't look back unless you are planning on going there.  There are tons of better guys out here who are not as childish and youll be happier. Chalk this up to experience but youll be much better off. Good luck

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