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Me and my friend really like each other. We are both 20 years old and have went on a few private dates. her parents a very strict about her dating or talking to guys. So we need away to tell them about us!

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Barb Cala Profile
Barb Cala answered

Be honest and open with them ... If you want them to treat you like adults.  We have no idea why they disapprove of you two dating. 

Jann Nikka Profile
Jann Nikka answered

Have a family get together with your parents as well and as others have stated tell the plain simple truth. We are dating.

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Walt O'Reagun Profile
Walt O'Reagun answered

What country do you live in?

I'm guessing it's not in the Americas or Europe ... As at that age, you are legally an adult and can date whomever you want.  (Well, unless you are still living in your parent's house)

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Johnathan Kenneth
American. We are both still at our parents house. Mine are fine with me dating anyone I'm pleased with, it's just her parents we are having to convince.
Michael Poland Profile
Michael Poland answered


Make sure you invite them to the Wedding.

Dance like a gypsy Profile

She's 20 why can't she date?

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Johnathan Kenneth
Well, her parents have made "mistake" in their younger years and they don't want her making the same mistakes. They don't necessarily, mind her dating, they just have to know the guy and approve. She's very scared of them and very insecure, so that is why we are really having to think things through to hopefully get a good response.
Dance like a gypsy
They sound awfully controlling of her sorry but she's 20 and needs to stand up for herself.
Sharron Prestcott Profile

You're both 20 years old and there's no reason this girl can't date.  Unless her parents have some reason to object to her dating you then you need to tell them instead of sneaking around. Her parents not wanting her to speak to boys is totally unreasonable, she needs a social life that includes boys.

As a parent I can understand their concern but as someone who had parents who never wanted me to date I would encourage your girlfriend to tell her parents, it's time she pointed out to them that she's not them, because they made mistakes does not mean she will.  If she's firm, respectful and refuses to be drawn into an argument and tells them they have to trust her then she'll demonstrate her maturity. 

At 20 years old she has to grow up, there will be other times in her life she wants to do things her parents don't necessarily approve of.  Avoiding confrontation and not telling them will only cause more problems.

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