Your age is 16, that's why your dad is so protective I think... this is the age where you can make or break......your dad is just taking care of you....it think he just thinks that you might not get into any kind of hardships.....thats my opinion. I don't know whether you will like it or not.
You're his daughter and he wants to protect you. You're growing up to be a woman. It scares him a little. Instead of getting into a head-to-head battle over this kind of thing, think about what would ease his mind about the situation and address that.
Is he worried about you going on a date alone? Then tell him that you can go with a group of friends. Have them come to the house and meet him. You are starting to hit some milestones in high school; he remembers being a guy in high school; and he knows that not everyone practices self control.
Just talk to him about what he's worried about so you guys can work through this together. Good luck.
You just have a really overprotective dad.
Anonymous.....You are a very fortunate young person that has parents that care about not only your well being but your safety as well. Your parents have a strong desire to protect you. Love moves them to say yes when they can but no when they have to When you ask their permission to do something, they ask themselves if they can grant the request and then live with the consequences. They will say yes to themselves and to you- only if they are reasonably convinced that no harm will come to you.
Think of this.....because your parents have a greater knowledge and experience, they are aware of dangers that you do not see. They were young once, and they know you well. Attitude, plays a big role don't view your parents as enemies. View them as part of your team because all things considered, they are. If you view your parents as allies, you're less likely to sound combative and they are more likely to be cooperative. Show your parents you're mature enough to accept their decision and respect it. If you do, they will respect you. And next time, they may be more inclied to look for ways to say yes.
Truly protective dads get a bum rap. Yes, unfortunately many dads do go over board. I did on many an occasion. Dads for one thing used to be "teen boys", they remember all the things they thought about and perhaps never did. But they also remember what happened to girls who went with the wrong crowd. Some how, some way my daughters realized my fears and anxiety and managed to soften the blows by going out of their way to reassure me of there safety and maturity. For example I don't think either one ever went out with a boy or friends I did not know. They were always bringing their friends over to hang out, for dinner, for Bar-B-Qs etc. I also managed somehow to meet their friends parents. Being a single dad was never easy but I was blessed with the most magnificent daughters which made life much easier.
It's your dad's responsibility to aware your activity he wants to protect you from any dangers that you don't know. He has also right to know your friends circle.May be he can use cell phone tracker to know all your activities which you done with your friends.
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