My ex boyfriend and I talk often and his best friend was talking to me in "naughty" ways when my ex and I were together. I still care about my ex, and I want to tell him what went on but I don't want to lose his best friend as one of my friends too?


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RIK RZ answered

You will have to choose yourself.

Bikergirl Anonymous Profile

It would be a difficult task to come clean about your inappropriate discussions without incriminating yourself. The first thing that comes to my mind is .. You may have encouraged this inappropriateness by enabling it. You have to accept your own part of the blame for allowing it. Had you nipped that in the bud, he wouldn't have got the impression that you are receptive .. And would have stopped.

Make no mistake .. Being disrespected  by this "friend" .. Whether or not you enabled it, is, for obvious reasons reflects very negatively on your relationship with this guy. THAT is not what a friend does to another friend .. So don't fool yourself into thinking he wants your friendship ... Cause THAT is not what he's after...if you get my meaning.

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Mia Johnson
Mia Johnson commented
I actually did not enable it. I actually told him several times that what he is doing is wrong because I'm with his best friend, and I wanted no part of it. I did, however, reply in the same kind of way a couple times to be honest. I have been carrying this guilt for a long time and I'd like to come clean with my ex. The only problem is I don't want to ruin his relationship with the only "friend" he has because he has depression and he needs someone there for him besides me.

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