Is my boyfriend cheating? We had our 1st child this year in April. He was distant during the pregnancy but now he is just cold. He shows no affection, we have no sex life, he won't help with the baby. He denies all of this but refuses to talk about it.

Hard for any of us to really say ! His refusal to talk about any of it makes me wonder though. His complete lack of interest in his child is extremely cold and needs to be dealt with. That shows a lack of maturity on his part. I suggest you make him talk about it or threaten to leave! I raised two step kids as my own and many men have no problem with that. Talk or git !

If you aren't married or engaged … it's really not "cheating".

Time to get a lawyer and draw up the child support/visitation papers.

Don't have kids out of wedlock.  It is just a bad idea.  He may feel like the baby has trapped him in a relationship.  He may think the baby isn't his.  Some men really have a hard time dealing with the demands of an infant.  Some men can't have a sexual relationship with a woman they perceive as a "Mommy".  It could be a million things.  Sit him down, talk about your feelings and see if he will consider counseling together.

He's not really your boyfriend, he is your baby's father.  You need to get child support started.

Cheating is your only concern?  He's withdrawn and distant and probably very unhappy considering he is uninvested in your dysfunctional relationship but is trying to do 'the right thing' by living with his child's mother.  Why aren't you asking why you are staying together as a couple .. And what this cold and unconnected 'relationship' is going to offer your child. Why aren't you asking ... How can you fix this (as a couple)? Is this worth fixing?  How can you re-connect? Why does he stay?  What can you do .. as a couple to make this 'work'? What kind of example is your loveless relationship portraying to your child ?