My fiancé's bisexual friend asked her to spend a week alone with her. No kids. No friends. Just the two of them. What do I do?

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Bikergirl Anonymous Profile

Tell her about your concerns .. And why you are feeling threatened by her week away.  If she is not bisexual .. I can't see there being a problem with her doing something she isn't supposed to be doing.  It could very well just two friends hang'n out, and chill'n.

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Danae Hitch answered

Talk to your fiancé about your feelings about this. Just talk; don't scream and carry on. If you're concerned something might happen, just say so. Ask your fiancé if she is comfortable going on this trip or does she feel forced into it? If you make this a big deal and blow it out of proportion, it will become a big deal.

If your fiancé feels okay about going, has considered your feelings, and doesn't feel that anything would happen and if it did, she would address this with the friend, then let her go. Always keep the lines of communication open. Tell her that if she wants to go, it will be okay with you. However, if she goes and things go south with the other friend, tell her to call you and you will come and get her, no questions asked. And then trust her enough to let her make the decision. Good luck.

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Walt O'Reagun answered

This is hilarious.

Do you let your fiance go to work on her own?  Or anywhere on her own?

You realize every time she is away from you, but around other people - she is around *somebody* that is attracted to her gender?  Whether that person is straight, gay, or bi - it doesn't matter.  If your fiance has any wish to have "relations" with someone other than you, she didn't need to wait for this trip.

Sounds to me like you don't trust your fiance.  You may want to reconsider your relationship.

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star gazing answered

Leave them be, I guess? Talk to your S.O about how you feel, but you'll just have to trust.

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That's exactly how I'm feeling. I trust her with all of my heart. I always have. We've had our ups and downs like anyone. We stuck together thru a lot. Devastating situations that would kill a person inside actually. But we have been apart for a couple months do to her moving and me eventually making the same move. The distance hurts and we aren't sexually active do to that fact I guess it concerns me. This girl has already tried to kiss her. She told me she turned away and she got her on the cheek. Yet she still hangs out with her. My fiancé is a very trusting person. She's kind and would do anything for anyone. She always been that way. I tells her shes to good to people. But I would bash anyone who dare to try and come between her and I. She told me she isn't attracted to her like that. But I told her. The girl is bi. She likes you. And now she's trying to get you alone and I'm not comfortable with it. She tells me she won't try anything and don't worry. I'll be honest. It does worry me
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star gazing commented
Sorry for the late reply-
I see why you're worried about it. If she wants to go, I don't think you can stop her. You've already told her how you feel and she's acknowledged it...all you can do now is hope for the best and tell her to stay safe.
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star gazing commented
Sorry for the late reply-
I see why you're worried about it. If she wants to go, I don't think you can stop her. You've already told her how you feel and she's acknowledged it...all you can do now is hope for the best and tell her to stay safe.
Dakota  Mackenzie Profile

Umm... I have a friend who was bisexual, she had a crush on me but back off because she knew I was straight!! Do you know the friend? Does she seem to have deeper feelings for your Fiancé? If not, and you trust both the friend and your fiancé then, don't worry...

Cookie Roma Profile
Cookie Roma answered

What do you do?  You do understand that EVEN a bisexual person can have friends that are completely platonic? 

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Anonymous Anonymous
Yes but this isn't the case. We already know she into her
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Cookie Roma commented
Then I guess you'd better decide if your relationship has trust. that and whether or not you are a partner or a parent to her. Let her? Really?

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