Why are most boys so judgemental when it comes to girls? They have to have perfect everything. Why?

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Nice Girl Profile
Nice Girl answered

It's not that they have to have everything perfect, and those boys who want a perfect you, that simply means they're not in love with or don't like you truly. They just want to use you, nothing else - that's why they want a perfect you! And not all boys are like that, those who truly love you will love you however you are; once I was criticising my boyfriend's girlfriend and then he said "I love her for who she is" and at that time I wasn't his girlfriend, so you see he loved her for who she was. Not all boys are bad! And that's not just with boys even with girls; some girls are judgemental and some are not so there are all kinds of people in the world, you can't just call one gender bad because of some of them!

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John Doe answered

Boys are judgemental of girls because society tells them to be. Society has dictated what characteristics in girls/women are accepted as beautiful, generally these characteristics include, thin....thin....and thin! It's like what you see on television, movies, and magazines....No wonder females have issues with the way they look.....Good news is, most guys/men, as they get older, realize what qualities they want in a woman, and the outside is generally no longer important, that when us as women say the men have grown up! Give it time!

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Nice Girl
Nice Girl commented
Ha! It's funny how you've set an age that when will arrive will force you into something you've decided but don't wanna do , one advice : just wait for he right time, not the age!!:)
Theodore Putnam
Theodore Putnam commented
Well, that age is partly because of my religion. Will i be a rebel and date a few times at fifteen? Abseloutely, because my definition of a date is an activity where you get to know someone better. Hopefully i can find someone who isn't too good for me.
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Nice Girl commented
No I didn't mean that, I wanted to say like suppose you get 16 and you really arent Ito dating but yet for the sake of age you find someone so I was saying that wouldn't be good, well what do you plan for yourself in the future?
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lover boy answered

For me if I see a really pretty girl (Lauren) (this is how I really thought) I immediatly think they're pretty somone's obviously with them.

Benjamin Coleman Profile

I'm going to pass on giving any other answer than that I dislike questions like these because they are sweeping generalizations that seem to be designed to offend a group of people.

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Benjamin Coleman
Benjamin Coleman commented
Glad you're happy with it. Toodles.
Awesome  Autumn
Awesome Autumn commented
Who said I was happy with it?
Benjamin Coleman
Benjamin Coleman commented
Just a hunch. Anyway, my opinion of this question isn't going to change, so I'm walking away. Maybe next time you should make it a little clearer about what type of answers you want and then maybe all this hoo-hah could be avoided.
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Kk polly answered

I've never thought of boys being judgemental towards girls. I know mean people say mean things, but they don't know what they want. They just say what their friend say. I personally have never been bullied. I'm homeschooled and it's only in the summer that I'm not around Christian people. But even the non-Christian people I've met have a very dear place in my heart. I've been blessed to be around never judging people. 

I'm the only judging person I know. I judge myself. I think everybody probably judges themselves. I think it's the people who judge themselves too much that end up judging things around them. When I was eleven I was the weirdest, ugliest kid I knew. I had braces, split ends, and bad fashion sense. The next year I cut my hair, took out my braces, wore makeup, and stopped dressing like a magazine. Now I can't help but dislike anyone that reminds me of myself when I was eleven. I don't like this evil of mine. Hopefully I can resolve this struggle and many others of mine.

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Matt Radiance answered

So many great answers are up there already so i don't see a reason to talk about it a lot. But just some few perspectives to add.

First, judgmental people are "Wrong" people, so we should ignore their opinions & empty thoughts. & being judgmental has nothing to do with gender, it can be found in both genders. Girls that talk about boys, an idol boy is to be tall, any boy who has muscular body  is in center of attention & worth more. Ect .. Ect ..

Then i would say, please let's not "Generalize" & say "boys" there's billion of people & half of them are males. How can you say all the males are like that ? You might entirely faced the max of 50 males, what about other millions ? So we don't know about everyone.for instance, i'm not like that at all, i never judged a girl entire my life, i'm not even into these things i mean there's no rule to say a girl should look like this, look like that, the beauty of the world is the variation, different size, different looks, different styles, different thoughts,if all suppose to look the same as an "idol" look, it would be so boring, so those that judge girls in that way, aren't wise enough to see that. & to me all girls are prefect because each one of them has their own unique style & as much as i can i'll do my best to make them to understand this. So there's (some) girls & boys that are judgmental not all, not everyone.

As a man i'm not just judgmental,i always been out of these games as well, boys/girls  boys says that  .. Girls do that  .. We are all humans & living in the same planet & i hope all people finally put all these childish things away & live as grown ups without these gender battles which is a total waste of time.

Sara Lewis Profile
Sara Lewis answered

I don't think all boys are judgmental when it comes to girls- although it can feel like that sometimes. Ideas about "How to look good for guys" have been created and perpetuated by the media for so long, that girls can feel pressured to have "perfect everything", which isn't right.

The advent of photoshop means we are confronted by the image of flawless celebrities, with impeccable hair, skin, and make-up, with the implication being that this is how all women should look, and that this is what men want.

Chances are the boys you meet at school will suggest that they are interested in aspects of a girls appearance, but as they grow up and gain emotional maturity (which sadly seems to happen a lot later than for girls!) they will be less shallow, and the personality and emotional parts of a girl become far more important.

Don't worry- there are nice guys out there who want to get to know you for who you are!

This is a great video about feeling good about yourself, and not worrying too much about what boys think:

PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

From my experience the boys that are judgmental are the ones who are trying to use the girl to cover up for their own insecurity. I don't think even most boys are judgmental, at least not on an individual level. However if you get a group of teenage boys together they will follow a pack mentality and unfortunately the loudest and rudest boy will often take control of the pack first and they will follow picking on people to show they aren't afraid.

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Deston Elite answered

Guys really don't expect perfect everything. In fact, we're hardly judgmental at all. It's part of our sexual nature. Although we do try to look for the best mate possible, sexual reproduction does not rely on an absolutely perfect female mate.

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