Do men like girls who can talk about sex freely? I'm an innocent looking girl, shy, conservative with my body, I don't want to have sex yet with anyone at all, yet I talk and know sex stuff like a pro. Is it ok?


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Anonymous answered

Yes but sometimes,  n.  It can be creepy for a girl to know a lot about sex to. Its different if your talking girl friends

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Emily Rivers answered

Hey! I think it's great that you can talk about sex freely.

I also think it's great that you know that you don't want to have sex yet. A lot of people these days give in to peer pressure and feel worried if they haven't had sex by a certain age.

To answer your question whether men like girls who talk about sex freely: I would say, yes! On the most part, men and women like to talk about sex - and will welcome anyone that wants to join the conversation!

Feeling comfortable

The most important thing to remember is that you should feel comfortable talking about sex. If you're not, it can make you feel really unpleasant, and why would you want to ruin something that can be so good?! In order to have a good relationship with someone (whenever they come along), I think that an open dialogue about sex works really well to make a couple stronger, happier and have a healthy relationship.

So what?

It shouldn't matter what you look like - being a shy, innocent looking girl and being conservative with your body doesn't dictate what you like talking about. Also, if you talk about sex a lot and know a lot about it, you'll probably enjoy it more when you think it's the right time to do it.

Why does talking about sex matter?

I think talking about sex is really important for a number of different reasons:

1. If we're comfortable talking about sex, it's more likely that we'll be more relaxed when we have sex ourselves and get more enjoyment out of it.

2. If we know a lot of stuff about sex, like you say, you talk like a pro, we probably will know what to do to prevent stuff from going wrong eg. Unexpected pregnancy and STIs. If we spoke about sex more, perhaps teenage pregnancy and STI rates would be a lot lower!

Basically, what I'm trying to say is: I think it's great that you can talk about sex freely and know sex stuff like a pro, even though you know you don't want to have sex with anyone yet. Good on you!!

You might want to look at this video on YouTube, it made me chuckle:

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Anonymous answered


Here it is -  when you know a lot about sex but say very little about knowing,  for some reason it brings the attention of good men.  Whereas when you talk about sex and about how you know a lot about it you attract the wrong attention from the wrong guys.  See I know this because I have alwayse been very open with my sexual self and it has caused a lot of unwanted attention from a lot of  the biggest jerks who as they say like to hit it and quit it. Anyway my point is if you want a guy who loves you and respects you,  you just be your self keep a lill bit of mystery to your sexual self and that on its own is enticing.  

Let them come to you and either you are interested or you're not.  You don't have to be a complete lady but just a happy medium will work. 

So good luck and keep the allure of mystery .

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