There is no "guide" that is gonna work for everyone honey, what you need to do is a) be yourself b) get some practice
I don't mean like becoming a sl*t or whatever, but find a partner you connect with and want to have a relationship with, and then get lots of practice together.
Trust me, relationship sex is way better than one night stands, I tried both and I know.
It helps you know what your guy likes. Some guys like nice and slow, other love it when you are really hard and fast when you ride on them, so it depends on getting to know your man.