"To Acquire Friends,Show Yourself Friendly". Who Is The Author& Do You Agree?


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Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
Well I don't exactly with the above wording, but I believe Ralph Waldo Emerson said something fairly similar to this with similar meaning: "The only way to have a friend is to first be one".

I absolutely agree with both statements, in that being friendly engenders a basic trust needed to reach out, and to start and keep friendships going. First, human beings are responsive to friendliness and need a certain sense of confidence that their friendly affection will be reciprocated, and then second, who wants to befriend someone who doesn't/isn't able to act friendly to them in return --or worse, who is downright unfriendly toward them or betrays that trust?

Incidentally, another related quote that speaks to how irrestistable friendliness can be:
"If you make it plain you like people, it's hard for them to resist liking you back."
Lois McMaster Bujold, Diplomatic Immunity, 2002
thanked the writer.
william howell
william howell commented
Thank,s amore01-I stand corrected-Knew you,d have the answer!
Anonymous commented
No problem! Actually, I wasn't sure if someone else said a similar thing a little differently, so it was only a guess.
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Robyn Rothman answered
Whether or not your words are an actual quote doesn't matter. The sentment is certainly valid. People are more apt to respond to those who are friendly than to those who are not. Real friendship is more than that, but it's a good way to start.
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Anonymous answered
A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly [Proverbs 18:24] King James Version
I totally agree with this. It doesn't mean that you should allow yourself to be walked on, just that you need to respect others and treat them the way you would like to be treated yourself.

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