I'm a 4'11" mom. My daughter is 4' 8-1/2" and 15yo. It is feasible to say that we have reached our height potential. We've both experienced rude people, mean people, insensistive people in school, friends, enemies, strangers and even family members saying things to us. Short persons share a commaradarie in this sometimes painful aspsect of our lives. Feelings of "not being normal; humiliated; less than average; anger; revenge; helpless; and even depressed scars us in different ways and to various magnitudes. For those, especially teens, I hope that what I (short MOM) write can give you some strength and possibly new insight to get through each and every time that you are insulted, attacked, humiliated, etc. For being short. Comebacks sometimes help us to protect ourselves. Try these with gentleness and humbleness, if you can't walk away, ignore remarks, or is malicious in intent:
When someone says, "You're short." :: Ans. "That's stating the obvious." or "AND Your point is..." "Why did you want to tell me that?"
When someone says, "I was just saying...: :: Ans. "You didn't have to."
Other cb's: "No one has a choice on how tall they are, but everyone has a choice on WHAT they are."
*Look into the mirror every morning and know that God is perfect and when he made you, he didn't make an imperfect thing...YOU are perfect.
*People may look at you and laugh, you'll hear snickering as they pass, whispers and side glances. Know that, as you stand there, at that moment, taking the "Isms," you are stronger just because you are there.
*If you're in school, study hard or excel in something tht makes you happy. My daughter is straight A student for 4 yrs. I tell her that those people who tease her will be working for her one day. She'll be their boss one day. The opinions of strangers don't matter. They are not a part of your life.
*This sounds preachy but don't turn it off. When you feel really attacked, really humiliated, perhaps less than zero...Know that God is standing right next to you with his arm around your shoulders. You are both looking at that person insulting you. God will remember them, you don't have to. Let go and Let God. Then......LIVE! Wake up every morning and look in that mirror. Smile, know that you are perfect.
When someone says, "You're short." :: Ans. "That's stating the obvious." or "AND Your point is..." "Why did you want to tell me that?"
When someone says, "I was just saying...: :: Ans. "You didn't have to."
Other cb's: "No one has a choice on how tall they are, but everyone has a choice on WHAT they are."
*Look into the mirror every morning and know that God is perfect and when he made you, he didn't make an imperfect thing...YOU are perfect.
*People may look at you and laugh, you'll hear snickering as they pass, whispers and side glances. Know that, as you stand there, at that moment, taking the "Isms," you are stronger just because you are there.
*If you're in school, study hard or excel in something tht makes you happy. My daughter is straight A student for 4 yrs. I tell her that those people who tease her will be working for her one day. She'll be their boss one day. The opinions of strangers don't matter. They are not a part of your life.
*This sounds preachy but don't turn it off. When you feel really attacked, really humiliated, perhaps less than zero...Know that God is standing right next to you with his arm around your shoulders. You are both looking at that person insulting you. God will remember them, you don't have to. Let go and Let God. Then......LIVE! Wake up every morning and look in that mirror. Smile, know that you are perfect.
