I Think My Partner Is A Sex Addict. Where Can We Get Help?


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Oscar De La Huerte Profile
Although sex addiction may not seem like such a prevalent issue in comparison to forms of drug dependency like heroin and cocaine addiction, it is actually thought that 6% of the population suffer from some form of sex addiction.

If you feel that you or your partner need help dealing with sex addiction, your medical healthcare provider is often a good person to confide in.

What are the consequences of sex addiction?
Sex addiction is not something to be overlooked, as it can often have serious implications for someone's relationship, lifestyle and health. Luckily, the problem is more widely recognized - and the amount and quality of help available has increased substantially in the past few decades.

The first problem a sex addict may encounter is being able to recognize the problem. This can be difficult because, as far as sex goes, there isn't an easy way to quantify what the difference between addiction and a high libido are.

One aspect of sex addiction that distinguishes it as a problem (rather than simply a lifestyle choice) is the negative consequences a sex addict will often suffer in their 'pursuit of gratification'.

Often these include:
  • Feelings of regret or shame
  • An inability to remain faithful to one partner
  • Engaging in 'risky' sex
  • Frustration at being unable to control one's sex drive
What can I do about a partner's sex addiction? The experience of being the a partner of a sex addict is often thought to be just as bad, if not worse, than suffering from sex addiction itself.

Partners of sex addicts often live in the knowledge that their loved one might never be satisfied with the sexual relations of a monogamous relationship.

The consequences to a partner of an addict can include:
  • Low self-esteem
  • Possible exposure to STDs (through a partner's sexual behaviour)
  • Anxiety and distress caused by a partner's infidelity.
As a partner of a sex addict, it is important to remain strong and focused on working to help your partner. The first thing to bear in mind is that sex addicts may not want to talk about their addiction. Often they will be too ashamed and afraid to confront their problem. This is where your strength and bravery will be paramount.

The first port of call should be to your personal GP or healthcare provider. Your doctor will be able to guide you on your quest to obtain the best treatment for your partner.

Often this will involve attending counselling sessions (maybe as a couple), and there are also support groups for sex addicts located all over the country.
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Anonymous answered
I have recently been advised that "The Causeway Retreat" ( has been very successful on sex addiction treatment. The facilities are based on an island just 40 miles away from London and they are very nurturing. Especially if you live in the UK, or even if you don't, I would say check their website or even give them a call.
Girija Naiksatam Profile
Firstly you will need to get your partner to see that he/she has a problem. Once this is done make sure that he/she realises that you still support and love them. There are many places that you can go to get help. You can look for communities within your vicinity that could help deal with various addictions. If not offer direct help, maybe they will be able to make suggestions about other places.

One of the communities that deal with such kind of problems is called 'Sex Addicts Anonymous'. Since this community is also localized you will probably find some information about it in your Yellow Pages or on the World Wide Web. Its methodology is somewhat similar to that of the AAA programs which begins with the victims assessing and addressing the issue by following a 12 step program.

If you are unable to find organisations that are solely dedicated to helping sex addicts, you can visit a counselor and seek help. Ensure that your partner knows that you and both your families will fully support them throughout their recovery.
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Anonymous answered
If your partner is a sex addict, then first talk to them about it and then get help from a counselor, a friend, whoever. Just make sure you don't love your partner any less. If your partner has that problem, then be supportive and help that partner along the way. I hope everything works out...Good luck!
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margaret lee answered
My partner went to see his GP but at first wasn't taken seriously. He was told to keep a diary over the next month and did.

In that one month he had 24 partners both men and women and some of them several times.

He is now seeing a therapist and I hope this is going to work for him. Remember it is an illness like several others,stick by him/her and let them know you are there for them and you will be to the end.

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