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Do You Add Step Parents And Step Children To A Family Tree?

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nabwire scarlet answered
I think step parents and step children are part of the family so they don't have to be left out. It's not fair to look at your step parents or step children as different people because it brings division and hatred in homes. I believe adding them on the family tree makes them happy.
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Today my mother in law replied that she didn't need pictures of my two daughters because it was a picture frame that was intended for 4 generations. Therefore she didn't need a picture of the girls which are not her sons biological children. We will never have children and these are the only two children we will share together. I was none the less.. Ticked off because to me. It was a strong message that she doesn't accept them as her family. Am I wrong for feeling this way. Its a picture frame. On her wall...not a damn history book.
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Suhail Ajmal answered
You should include step children and step parents in the family tree. They are a part of your family. Don't you think they are a part of your family?
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I can tell you from recent experience that you should definitely find a way to include everyone.  My husband and I have for the most part raised our eight year old grandchild.  She is my husband's son's daughter.  I have no children of my own but my husband and I have been married nearly 20 years.  My step son and his wife were not able to care for her so we got custody.  In the mean time they divorced, her mother disappeared and her father remarried.  After about 5 years he was able to get custody back.  Needless to say My husband and I and our granddaughter are very close.  A few weeks ago she was given an assignment to do a family tree.  When we went for grandparents day we saw it and noticed that I was left off the tree.  Needless to say I was extremely hurt.  More than that though, my granddaughter was confused and didnt understand why I wasnt there.  I am her only "real" grandmother.  Her maternal grandparents arent really part of her life because they live several hours away and her father's mother was not stable enough to be a real, consistent part of her life.  She has since taken her own life.  My granddaughter was caught in the middle of ugly pettiness.  The step mother and her family were all there but not me.  It is best for the child to include everyone.
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Family trees are based on blood lines not on people's feelings. I'm sure the step related family members have their own blood lines and family trees. This is about science not who they love. I grew up with my father remarrying 3 times and my mother twice. I do not expect to be listed in my step parent's family trees. Why would I?
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Anyone who has tried to research their family's history will appreciate family trees being blood related.
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Absolutely!!!   My sister-in-law from my second marriage added me to their family tree, but not my son from my first marriage.  I am very hurt by this.  My step-daughters are on my family tree.  I feel if I am added, my son should be added.  If my son (from my first marriage) isn't added, then my second son (from my second marriage) also shouldn't be added.  

Are we trying to make our family tree look perfect - or are we trying to keep track of our families?  Should some of my grandchildren be on the family tree (because they're my step-daugthers' children) and not my grandchildren from my son from my first marriage?  He's as much a part of me as my son from this marriage!!!
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Melissa Hite answered
Depends on why you are doing the family tree. If you are doing it for Ancestory, Heritage etc. Then you do not include step because then the heritage would be wrong. If you are doing it just to show later in life who all was married to who and who was related through marriage then yes you add step. You could always do two family trees one with and one without Hope this helps
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Anonymous answered
I was always taught that you are related by blood.  You can have extended family members, ie step parents or child that are related by the heart, however your lines are blood.

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