ANONYMOUS.........FAKE FRIENDS ARE EASY TO COME BY, BUT HOW CAN YOU FIND A TRUE FRIEND?
MAKING FRIENDS IS NOT ALWAYS EASY WHEN YOU ARE YOUNG OR UP IN AGE. MOST PEOPLE FEEL IT'S IMPORTANT TO HAVE GOOD FRIENDS. WHAT DO YOU LOOK FOR IN A FRIEND? WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO HAVE A LASTING FRIENDSHIP? BUT, THE QUESTION IS HOW CAN YOU BE A GOOD FRIEND?
CONSIDER:
1. SHOW THAT YOU REALLY CARE
TRUE FRIENDSHIP INVOLVES COMMITMENT. IN OTHER WORDS, A GOOD FRIEND FEELS A RESPONSIBILITY TOWARD YOU AND HE REALLY CARES ABOUT YOU. OF COURSE, SUCH COMMITMENT IS TWO-WAY, AND IT REQUIRES HARD WORK AND SACRIFICE ON BOTH SIDES. REMEMBER, TO HAVE A GOOD FRIEND, YOU FIRST NEED TO BE A GOOD FRIEND.
2. WHAT PEOPLE LOOK FOR IN A FRIEND
START BY WANTING TO BE A GOOD FRIEND YOURSELF. BE GENEROUS IN SHOWING AFFECTION AND PERSONAL INTEREST. AND BE WILLING TO SACRIFICE YOUR TIME WHEN YOU ARE NEEDED.
THE BIBLE TELLS US: "JUST AS YOU WANT MEN TO DO TO YOU, DO THE SAME WAY TO THEM. PRACTICE GIVING, AND PEOPLE WILL GIVE TO YOU". (LUKE 6:31, 38)
3. BE A GOOD COMMUNICATOR
A TRUE FRIENDSHIP CANNOT FLOURISH WITHOUT REGULAR COMMUNICATION. SO TALK TOGETHER ABOUT THE INTERESTS YOU SHARE. LISTEN TO WHAT YOUR FRIEND HAS TO SAY, AND RESPECT HIS OPINIONS. WHENEVER POSSIBLE, COMMEND AND ENCOURAGE HIM.
4. HAVE REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS
THE CLOSER WE GET TO A FRIEND, THE MORE LIKELY WE ARE TO SEE HIS FLAWS. OUR FRIENDS ARE NOT PERFECT, BUT NEITHER ARE WE. THEREFORE, WE SHOULD NEVER EXPECT OR DEMAND PERFECTION FROM THE PEOPLE WE BEFRIEND. RATHER, IT IS GOOD TO CHERISH THEIR VIRTUES AND TO MAKE ALLOWANCES FOR THEIR MISTAKES.
5. WIDEN YOUR CIRCLE OF FRIENDS
IT'S TRUE WE NEED TO BE SELECTIVE ABOUT THE PEOPLE WE BEFRIEND. BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN NARROWING OUR CHOICE OF FRIENDS TO THOSE OF A CERTAIN AGE OR UPBRINGING. TAKE AN INTEREST IN PEOPLE OF ALL AGES, CULTURAL BACKGROUNDS, AND NATIONALITIES CAN TRULY ENRICH OUR LIVES.
WHEN YOU WIDEN YOUR FRIENDS IT GIVES YOU THE OPPORTUNITY TO MATURE AS A PERSON. WHEN YOU LEARN TO GET ALONG WITH PEOPLE OF ALL AGES THAT WILL MAKE YOU MORE OUTGOING AND ADAPTABLE.
LASTLY; ACCEPT THE FACT THAT YOUR FRIENDS WILL MAKE MISTAKES. WHEN PROBLEMS ARISE, WE DO WELL TO RESOLVE THEM QUICKLY AND TRY HARD TO FORGET.