You should be glad your parents are showing an interest in your life. It doesn't matter if it's small talk or deep discussion, communication is good for any relationship. When one or both of us get home from work, my wife and I ALWAYS discuss how our day went. We never find it boring.
If your life were more interesting, you'd have plenty to talk about. That is isn't, is no fault of your parents.
Like Troy said, having your parents interested in your daily life is something you should be grateful for. They truly want to know how their child is doing. IF you ever become a parent, yourself, you'll appreciate what we're telling you.
You should be grateful they care enough to ask you. Look around at the kids that have no parents involved in their life. Some day you will look back and wish you had spent this time with them.
I have news for you. That is not small talk for your parents. That is love and caring. They are making time to talk to you. I was raised by a single mother who worked two jobs to support my two brothers and me. She didn't have time for to be asking how are day went. You are so fortunate to have parents who care and have time.
You don't have to go into a long explanation of your day. A simple "It was good. I got a higher score than I expected on my test." will do. Or "It was crappy. So-and-so started causing drama and made everyone feel uncomfortable." Or "It was just an average day. Nothing special happened."
Nothing stays the same forever. Keep that in mind and enjoy it now while you can.
What I don't get is you go from you don't have the energy to its boring. That would take two different solutions..... So since you have lots of WONDERFUL advice from your blurtit family I will address your "don't have the energy" part... You are young. Are you getting enough protein in your diet? Too much sugar or caffeine? What about enough hours of sleep? It is different for each person. What about your thyroid if you are EXTREMELY tired all the time. Are you depressed? There are lots of reasons you can address to see why you have no energy.
While I can understand this line of thinking . . . It is very self serving.
Ask yourself, is this really just about me, and my wants and desires, or is there something more in the communication between you and your parents. Your parents love you and are very interested in everything about your life . . . Unfortunately, most topics seem to be CLOSED for discussion. So you are left with, chatting about the weather, and how much snow do you think we will get this year? . . . .
You will find it is usually the child that governs the topic of discussion . . . Feel free to talk about a guy or girl you might have been checking out, or the fact that you got drunk with your friends last weekend and did something stupid . . .
It's okay to talk about some things that might get negative feedback . . . Conversation is so boring if all we are allowed to chat about is vanilla . . . .
Remember the advice we get from the bible at Deutoronomy 5:16: "Honor your father and your mother....... That you may prosper". When you talk to your parents you honor them. They will always worry about you, love you and want to know what's going on with you. Do you find it hard to share because you feel detached from them? Please meditate on the one fact that you have both parents who are actively interested in you and your success.
If your parents ark asking questions like "What did you do today? Then I can honestly say I feel your pain?---and I'm 71
Parent's care, but not all of them know how to ask questions in a way to get you engaged in answering them.
Try asking your mom how she decided on what to have for dinner tonight, or what her plans are for the week-end, or what was the most boring part of her day---or the most interesting part.
Maybe she'll get the hint and learn how to ask questions that get answers willingly---and perhaps even enthusiastically.
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