Is it ok to hate your ethnicity? Just thinking about it makes me sick to my stomach. I try to avoid doing anything "too Arab" to avoid hating myself even more. At heart I feel like an American or Eurepean but I'm trapped by reality


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Yin And Yang Profile
Yin And Yang answered

Awww friend, your question broke my heart. 😔 Of course it is okay to feel. First of all i want to point out the things you see as negative for your ethnicity in other people does NOT have to be you! You are you, not them. ☺ Second of all i want to point out many people don't like who they are or where they came from. I am fat. I hate it. But it is my genes. Take out the word "ethnicity" and replace the word "genetics" or "medical history" or "alcoholics" and do you still think it is wrong to feel? You are not alone. Many people... Actually probably all people have something about themselves they hate but can't change. Don't be too hard on yourself. ☺

PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

Hate is a strong word, but your feelings are yours and you have a right to feel them. I will say that as someone who has not liked a part of themselves before, you need to decide what it is that you don't like, or hate, and find a way to change that in you. Until you do that you will never be happy no matter where you are.

Janis Haskell Profile
Janis Haskell answered

You can take no credit nor blame for your ethnicity .... Only your own character and behavior.  So make it a point to be kind, loving, respectful, and responsible .... And then just be happy and grateful for who you are!

Call me Z Profile
Call me Z answered

There is no good in hating yourself for things you have no control over. You're no mutant, change the paradigm:

Be the best you that you can be, regardless of all else.

To paraphrase Dr King: Don't be measured by the color of your skin but by the content of your character.

Walt O'Reagun Profile
Walt O'Reagun answered

Your question reminds me of what I (somewhat jokingly) predicted ... "transethnic" identification.

Similar to "transgender" ... But dealing with what ethnicity you identify as, rather than gender.

Hell, we are ALL members of more than one ethnicity.  There haven't been any "pureblood" people for thousands of years.  So go with whatever you want.

Love and Harmony Profile

Every ethnicity has flaws. There is no perfect ethnicity. Either way, your ethnicity isn't something you can change about yourself. Being the best person you can be is good advice, but you'll still hate a part of yourself. So in order to not hate yourself, your most probable option is to be the best person you can be while trying to implement the best qualities that Arab's possess. For example, at the top of my head, Arabs are some of the most generous people I've come across. 

Btw, just out of curiosity, what makes you hate your ethnicity so much? 

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