Yea. That will show him.
Is it wrong to despise and wish ill will on my sons father even ten yrs later?
The opposite of love is not hate- it is indifference. At this point you are still being victimized emotionally by him. Let it go and free yourself.
I read somewhere that the best revenge is living well.
Ten years is a long time for someone to have even menial control of any aspect of your life even if it's emotional. Let it go already.
10 years ? Time to bury the hatchet and stop holding a grudge. You'll feel better inside when you release that grudge. Don't wish ill will on anyone. Things happen in life. I've went through two divorces and I hold no ill will towards either of them. Put your mind and soul at ease and just forget about it.
If you were greatly wronged, it is not unusual to maintain such feelings indefinitely.
But I'm sure that those feelings are taking up a lot of your energy that you could be using in other, probably, more productive ways.
I would suggest some professional help to heal from whatever horrible thing or things you experienced at his hands or as a result of his actions.
To be blunt .. Yes, it is wrong... On a number of levels. Hate is an insidious emotion. While it provides little consequence to the person you focus it on, it does provide many consequences to you and those that don't deserve those consequences at all.
Hating someone for their actions takes an enormous amount of energy .. And can be very "consuming" .. So much so that it can steal precious time and energy that should rightfully be spent on the people you love instead. There is not enough room in your heart to hate and to love at the same time. So, instead of focusing on your negative and destructive feelings that can literally eat you alive .. Focus on the lovingly positive feelings you have for your family that can help bring you, as an individual, to a "better place" in terms of your emotional strength . Love your family and friends with your whole heart .. Like they deserve. Love liberates you .. hate holds you captive.
When you do finally reserve yourself to letting go of the hate and focus on your love .. You will discover a whole new level of love that you never even knew existed. You will find a love that can conquer the world .. And all that the typical hurdles life throws at your feet. Love conquers and lifts you up .. Hate destroys and limits your true potential.
It's a matter of choice .. Think outside the box .. And choose wisely as it is a life changing experience for not only you but your entire family.
Hatred destroys the hater, not the hated.
He is the father of your child! You should always be GRATEFUL to him because if it wasn't for him, you wouldn't have your precious son. You need to let go of the ill feelings you have for him and focus on the positive..... Such as having your son in your life. :0)
He's had power over your emotions, your heart, your feelings for ten years. Enough already. This is really NOT the lesson you want your child to learn from you. Even if you never speak a bad word about your ex, your child is watching you seethe with anger towards this person for 10 years. Time for a new lesson.
Walk away. Be the better person. Show your child how to succeed on their own without having someone else drive the train.
