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Is it possible for your man to only find you attractive? Some guys say it is, and some say it isn't. But honestly, what do you think? I don't think it's possible. But then again, I'm only attracted to my man.

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Didge Doo Profile
Didge Doo answered

I think any normal man who said he found only one woman attractive would be lying -- to his partner, certainly, and probably to himself.

There's nothing wrong with finding another woman attractive. How could there be? Beauty gives pleasure to everybody. Even that evangelical zealot, C.S.Lewis, acknowledged it in A Confession. Among the things he specifically found beautiful were, "Peacocks, honey, the Great Wall, Aldebaran, the shapes of horse and woman..."

But finding another woman attractive is quite different from cheating. :)

Ally Gh Profile
Ally Gh answered

Honestly, I have been with my fiancee for over 6 years now (we dated for a while before we got engaged) and I cannot find any woman attractive now. I mean do not look at them that way. I am very happy with the relationship I am in and I do not see anyone but her. She is my world.

PJ Stein Profile
PJ Stein answered

No one finds only one person attractive. I will even make comments about women and ask if he agrees. Like if someone starts dating someone new I will ask, "Isn't Joe's new girlfriend pretty?" Sometimes he agrees and sometimes he won't. I don't care if he thinks someone is attractive. I am secure in our relationship and know there is more to life and a relationship than a pretty face,

Ancient Hippy Profile
Ancient Hippy answered

No and don't trust a man that says that. It's total bull.

Nina Nina Profile
Nina Nina answered

It is possible, but I don't think it's probable. If he finds other women attractive, that's okay because he loves you for you and not for that(those) other woman(en)

Tom  Jackson Profile
Tom Jackson answered

I'm not sure that he's using the correct words and phraseology to express what he means.

The fundamental meaning of attractive is appealing to the senses. 

It is more of a reaction than an intention. 

Personally, I have seen many beautiful sunsets---and the last one that I saw probably has not eliminated the possibility that I will still respond with great pleasure at the next one.

I still have the ability to notice what I consider beauty I see it in another woman.

But beyond observing and appreciating it, I have no interest (and I actually a mild avoidance response) regarding even mentally pursuing a fantasy because I know that sexual intimacy is unrewarding without the rest of the relationship that usually is present in the relationship between two people.

So I would say to my wife---yes I still recognize beauty when I see it, but you are the only beauty that I desire intimacy with.

If that's what he's trying to say, it's all good.            


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