I'm treated like a baby. My parents don't let me walk anywhere by myself or w/ friends or biking, or even go outside by my self! And all my friends go to movies and stores but I ain't even aloud to leave the house alone?

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Cookie Roma Profile
Cookie Roma answered

Omg.  Call an wahmbulamce. !!!! Perhaps if you'd grow up you might get to do things.  The fact that you can't got to a friends unless your parents know their parents?  That's called SMART. What your parents are doing it that crazy thing know to most of us as PARENTING. 

Danae Hitch Profile
Danae Hitch answered

Not being able to go to sleep-overs will cause you to perhaps miss out on some fun, but it doesn't kill you. My mom never let us spend the night at someone's house. Never. It was a thing she had. As far as knowing your friends' parents - that's being smart - that's not bad parenting.

My son is 22 years old and he has programmed in my phone about 3 to 4 friends he has that I can contact if I can't reach him.  He knows I worry about him, so he has provided that info for me for my peace of mind.

You may never get to go to a sleep-over. It's not the end of the world.

However, you could help yourself out and start being responsible. Do chores without asking. Cook a meal without being nagged. Do some laundry, fold it and put it away. Do your homework and turn it in on time. If you have them, babysit your siblings so your parents can have a date night.

When you do these things out of love and belonging to a family, you might be surprised at the results. Whining that you can't have things your way all the time accomplishes nothing, except to provide an immature example for your parents to base their decisions on.

Lily Watson Profile
Lily Watson answered

And I find this ridiculas cuz all my friends do and I can't. They invited me to a movie I can't go. My parents don't let me go to friends house unless they know their parents. I can't walk to school by myself or with my best friend who lives across me and she walks al, the time. And walking distance from the house to school is like 5 mins! I can't go to sleepovers can't go to stores can't even leave the door by myself without being supervised. And there is no way to convince them other wise, and I mean NO way. They are so strict. And I get that the world is "bad" and all that and they are "just trying to protect me" but what's the point. They are ruining my life for that. Cuz I'm treat like a baby. And I am in taekwondo so I know self defence. Every time there's a sleepover I can't go. But then in the morning everyone's fine, so I missed a perfectly good and fun sleepover. And nothing bad has happened in my town. But seriously and I always get grounded my friends never get grounded and they do worse stuff than I do. And I think that I'm pretty mature and responsible and can handle my self. But I need help I can't keep living like a baby😖😒.

Jesse Kaczmarczyk Profile

Yeah I get what you're going through. So does my mom. She NEVER lets me hang out with my friends unless I get my chores done. Which I seriously hate doing. I know you wish that you were the boss of your parents but your parents are just trying to do what's best for you. You should let it go. I'm beginning to be a better listener to my parents. Once in a while I'll fight with them but it's best if you just let it go. You're mature enough to go out by yourself. You should ask your parents why you can't go out by yourself. I'm sure they'll agree.

Tom  Jackson Profile
Tom Jackson answered

Well you either have great parents or you have overprotective parents.

Unfortunately, there is no way for any of us to evaluate you and your situation and decide which they are.

Hopefully, you will have more freedom and responsibility as time goes by.

Hang in there.

Akhila Ramesh Profile
Akhila Ramesh answered

Just try to tell them how you feel. Be open to having a calm discussion, because you aren't old enough to make your own decisions.

Bikergirl Anonymous Profile

Well, 'being treated like a baby' is YOUR perspective .. I would imagine THEIR perspective is more about taking precautions to keep their child safe in a volatile and dangerous environment.  Wether or not their precautions are appropriate would depend on where you live .. If you live in the middle of New York City (for example) where crime is at it's peak .. Or if you live in a small farming town in middle of Idaho where crime is minimal .. The precautions they have taken may or may not be necessary...It's all relative.

Daan Scatozza Profile
Daan Scatozza answered

i assume you are the same age as your friends so your parents just have that... Mother caring thing...    OVER 9000!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Concern Wright Profile
Concern Wright answered

You may feel that your parents aren't  reasonable; Think of this:  If you have a legitimate point to make, people in authority-in this case, your parents-might be willing to hear you out.

The secret to sucesss is how you present your case!!  The following steps will help you to do so more effectively:

1.  Identify the problem;  Below, write the issue that you and your parents can't seem to agree on.

2.  Identify the feeling;  Below write a word that describes how your parents' stand on the issue makes you feel-whether hurt, sad, embarassed, distrusted, or other.  (Example:  You indicate that your parents strict curfew leaves you feeling embarassed in front of your friends.)

3.  Think like a parent;  Imagine that you have a teenager who is facing the same issue that you named in step 1.  Assuming the role of a parent, what would be your biggest concern, and why? (Example;  perhaps your parents might fear for your safety.)

4.  Reassess the issue;  Answer the following the questions:

What merit can you see in your parents point of view?

What can you do to address their concerns?

5.  Discuss the matter with your parents and brainstorm solutions.  By applying the steps outlined above you might find that you can communicate with your parents on a more mature  level.  Arguing gets you nowhere, plus you're guaranteed to lose",  talk it out with your parents and you may be able to meet in the middle so that you both are satisfied.

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