My suggestion to you is this: Raise it back to what the court's initial decree was [$225.00] and if he is not working, that should give him a little bit of incentive for him to get off his tush & feed & clothe his children...♥Nassy
I myself don't understand the logic of those absentee fathers who refuse to support their children. Even in cases where the mother is spending most of it on herself. For me thats neither here or there regarding the fathers contributions. If he believes his kid is not being looked after he can ask social services to investigate. I would be looking to pay more when I possibly could unless there were extreme circumstances and even if another man was on the scene. In my mind, regardless of whether or not my wife is raking in the money from her financially better of new partner, it's still my child and i have my obligation to him or her and no one else. If I was in a financial rut, I would try to explain my circumstances and keep paying what I could get. But , thank god I have never been in those circumstances. :)
I am in the middle of a divorce and was awarded full legal and physical custody. My ex is supposed to pay just over $400 a month in child support--which is the minimum amount here in CA for two kids. He refuses to pay since he says he sees the kids so little. He was given very little visitation and no overnights until he goes to parenting classes. Which he refuses to do because he says he doesn't need them. He also won't work so he won't have to pay child support--though the amount he owes will just keep accruing. Do not lower the child support. You should take whatever the max amount is. And child support is supposed to help pay for food, shelter and clothing along with all of the other incidentals. I guarantee that $175 doesn't even make a dent in that. And it isn't his money once you get it. It's yours and your son's. You are not legally obligated to show him what you spend it on.
The sad part is that MOST woman use the child support they claim they need so bad for their own clothes, car payments, house payments, smokes, beer, drugs, etc. It is called CHILD support! It is to be used for things the child needs clothes, shoes, food, etc. You might think that $400 is a spit in the bucket but BOTH parents are to be financially responsible for the child so if the father is paying $400 a month, YOU should be dishing out $400 a month as well for the child which = $800 a month! I believe that is plenty enough money for a child to live on each month!