How do I deal with 8 year olds crying, screaming, hitting, complaining, and stomping?

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Angela Lazo Profile
Angela Lazo answered
I am a preschool teacher and I deal with this all day... Stay calm, talk sweet and tell him/her to come sit down and talk to you....find out what they want or need.
If they need help with something help them....if they are screaming for something they just can't have then tell them to stop the first time and to calm down, if it continues send them to there room....if it still continues try taking something they really like and tell them they can't have it back until the control there self and calm down.
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Buzz ross
Buzz ross commented
I wont hit her but he rest is good
have you ever worked with autistic kids my little brother
hits and screams and kicks his teacher
Joseph Michael Wasik Profile
They're looking for your attention.  So far, the only way they know of getting your attention is by irritating you.
Unless you want them growing up irritating you all the time, you need to spend quality time with them.  Hugs, kisses, games, talking
What do you think?
Hope this helps
Emiliano munoz Profile
Emiliano munoz answered
Slap him,or her, make her drink some juice and turn on spongebob
Arthur Wright Profile
Arthur Wright answered
Ignore them whenthey do thgis as its their way of getting attention when they want it so ignore him and he will soon learn the world doesnt revolve around them
Rebel Heart Profile
Rebel Heart answered
If it is just a temper tantrum, ignore it.  Not giving any feedback with take away the reason to have the tantrum in the first place, thereby making it no fun.
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Buzz ross
Buzz ross commented
Umm well we talk to her in a normal tone as if I was talking one on one with you and she takes it in her mind as yelling and being mean she gets tons of the attention but if something doesn't go her way she screams at us. Please help
Dickie Allen Profile
Dickie Allen answered
An 8 year old that acts like this is the fault of the parents for not properly disciplining their children from an early age. They allow their children to throw tantrums and give into what ever they want. Children rapidly learn they can get what they want by throwing a tantrum. They soon become little hellions. They completely control their parents by these methods. Parents are afraid to discipline their children because they have read these various child raising books that do not require real discipline but time outs.
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When I was a young child back in the early 1940s if I acted up and threw a tantrum I was spanked. I soon learned tantrums resulted in being spanked. If I started crying about something I was told to quit or I would be given something to cry about; a spanking. I knew better than to throw a tantrum in a store as I would be told to straighten up or I would get a spanking when I got home. Yes, I got my share of spankings for doing the wrong thing but not too much for a tantrum I knew early on what that would result in.
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By the time I was put in kindergarten I was a well mannered child. I had some fear yes, if I acted up of getting a spanking but I knew the difference between right and wrong. I never got in much trouble all through my school years. Nothing serious.
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None of my spankings could ever be considered beatings although at the time I thought I was being killed! Spankings were usually 8 to 15 swats either with hand or belt normally applied to my butt my jumping around got my legs hit a few times. None I repeat NONE of those spanking had ill or wrong effects on me. Today, although I am retired I can look back on my working career knowing I missed very few working days and only because of illness. I always did the best job I could regardless of what it was. Although retired I still work at 72 as a school bus driver getting up at 4:30 AM and in my bus by 6:20 AM. Often it is 9PM or later before I clock out during sports seasons. Since I have been there I have missed 1 1/2 days for a kidney stone. I owe my work ethics to the fact my parents didn't put up with my tantrums when I was a child and disciplined me as needed. My parents are gone now but they did an excellent job of raising me I thank them very much.
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I realize I put a lot of personal things in this answer but I did so to show discipline starts at an early age. By 8 it will be very difficult to get the child back under control. You will need to take some pretty drastic actions. You will have to ground them. Remove privileges from them and things like not allowing them to watch TV, no video games, no ipods, no phone calls. And no 8 is not too old to not spank. If they continue remove all the furniture including their bed from their room, all clothing, allow them only the clothes they have on. Yes, during school you will have to allow them clean clothes. Leave them only a pillow and a blanket. Let them sleep on the floor. You have to stick to it no matter how mad they get and they will get mad believe me! You have to get the message across you are the parent and they are the child; you are in control. Tell them if they want their things back they have to earn them. By not acting out, by helping in the house by taking out the trash, vacuuming, mowing the grass and other things. Have a chart and a box of gold stars. If they do a job well they get a star, five stars gets something back. Tantrums of discipline problems they loose two or more stars. The loss of 5 stars they lose the last item they earned back. Don't let their electronic things be the first things back maybe when they earn 10 stars they get one electronic thing back.
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Now get started and shape that child up properly!
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Buzz ross
Buzz ross commented
I like the idea of an award if she is good and taking away
stuff like watching icarly ( her favorite show ) or her dsi
Oddman Profile
Oddman answered
An 8-year old is not like a purse. You cannot just haul them around anywhere and expect them to be completely passive. This is a real person you are dealing with, and they have real wants, needs, and feelings. As long as you treat their world as unimportant, they will respond as you have described. Give respect, and you can expect some in return.

Physical and/or psychological abuse is not the answer. Promises you don't deliver on will not work very long, either. Sometimes, you may need to negotiate a truce--but you had better hold up your end of the bargain. Sometimes, you just need to tell it like it is, respectfully.
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Buzz ross
Buzz ross commented
If we talk to her in a normal tone she thinks as it as yelling
Oddman
Oddman commented
Sometimes, talking in a quiet voice can be very attention-getting. Sometimes, listening is preferred over any sort of talking.
Joseph Michael Wasik Profile
The child is looking for attention.  The best thing to do is lovingly hug the child and pay more positive attention such as playing games with the child.

Do not try bribing the child with sweets or candy.  That always doesn't end well.

What do you think?
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Buzz ross
Buzz ross commented
Umm well we talk to her in a normal tone as if I was talking one on one with you and she takes it in her mind as yelling and being mean she gets tons of the attention but if something doesn't go her way she screams at us.
Please help
Maria Not Telling Profile
When they miss behave set up a time out corner and put them in it if they leave put them back and just keep doing this and the bad behaviors will stop because they wont want time out its a little young for the 8 year old but it will work
Dennis Patrick Profile
Dennis Patrick answered
Talk to them the first time, then the second time and the third time hit them because this type of behavior will eventually lead to bigger problems. Just saying how we do it in the caribbean!!!

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