My Dad Was Adopted, How Do I Find Out Who My Biological Grandparents Are?

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Jackie Russell Profile
Jackie Russell answered
The first step in finding out about your biological grandparents should be to write down and gather all the information that you can find out about yourself from your family and friends.

Your first port of call should be your father. If he is comfortable talking about the subject, then talk to him in order to find out as much as you can about the circumstances of his adoption. Ask him if he knows the name of the hospital he was born in, the agency that handled his adoption - write down any information, no matter how insignificant it might seem at first.

Similarly, you can approach your father’s adoptive parents and ask them for any information or documentation that they might have in relation to the adoption.
Then gather together all the documents and information you have found. It may be possible for your father to find out more information by contacting the appropriate government official for documents such as an amended birth certificate, petition for adoption, and the final decree of adoption.

If either your father or his adoptive parents contact the agency that handled his adoption, the agency should be able to provide ‘non-identifying information’ relating to the process. This information may include details about his birth parents, such as their medical history, health status, the cause of death, age at death (if applicable), height, weight, eye colour, ethnic origin, religion or profession.

Registering with a reunion registry, such as the International Soundex Reunion Registry (ISRR) may be a productive way of tracking them down. If you have the resources to do so, you could also get a Confidential Intermediary to access the relevant information and attempt contact. Ultimately, any attempts to find your biological grandparents are likely to be more successful with the co-operation of your father.
orion Profile
orion answered
If you know where you dad was adopted, (city, state), go to the main library, or city hall and see if you can obtain records. If you're not living in that city and state use the internet.
Melinda Profile
Melinda answered
You have the right to know who your family is. One reason, even though there are many others, is medical history. The best thing that I can tell you is just be tenacious. Don't take 'no' for an answer. Someone has got to give sooner or later. Also try finding out which county your father was adopted from and then request the adoption records. I wish I knew more on this, I hope it helps some.
thanked the writer.
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Anonymous commented
Thank You, I know he was adopted in the UK his adoptive family live just a mile away. But they abused me when I was young, and despite re-gaining contact when I was 11, they began mentally abusing me again. So I discontinued contact. And even if contact was established I know they'd refuse to help me.
I don't know his birth surname, or how to obtain access to the records, or even if id be allowed to.
I know my grandfather died some years ago, but know nothing of his family or who he was, as my dad met him once and refused contact again. I don't even know if my grandmother is still alive. I need to know.

Thanks for the advice
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I was wondering if you got a good answer to this question because I`m in the same boat...
Anonymous Profile
Anonymous answered
I hope you find your grandparents I have been worrying lately about mine if you find out how to find them I would like to know.
Kasumi Evanescence Profile
Go 2 the hospital and give information about your dad and and as them if you can see his profile or you could try asking your dad if he knows them which iz a non-possibility.

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