My Daughter Won't Sleep In Her Own Bed, What Can I Do?

The affluence that allowed for children to have separate rooms, does not mean that it is natural for children to sleep in a separate room by themselves. They found that cases of S.I.D.S. Were fewer in homes where the baby slept in a room with other, children, or parents. Some people demand that Children learn to sleep alone, because that is how everyone is supposed to do it. I like the idea of the air mattress. Staying with your child until they are asleep, works for some, but often the child wakes at night, and ends up in the parents bed. For the time being, can you have a bed in your room, for the child? The goal should be to move the child into their own room. Start preparing the child for this eventuality, by saying positive things about being big enough to sleep in a room by yourself, and use whatever means you can to ease them into that situation. Night lights, music, bribery if necessary. Tell them that the kids in school will make fun of them and call them babies. Whatever works for you, I admire your open mindedness, and willingness to seek advice, and your Maternal compassion. Good Luck.

Also try giving her a teddy to sleep with, soft night lite and leave the door half open. In the beginning you might want to sit with her till she falls asleep and wake her in the morning. She will get use to seeing you before she sleeps and when she wakes in the morning, feeling more secure. My son went through the same thing at that age, it helped him and might work for you. 

Try a night light, and some soft music. This might make it a little more comfortable for her. Hope this helps.

You need to make her even blow up an air mattress and sleep in
there with her.

I know how you feel, about a week and a half ago, out of nowhere my 2yr old (soon to be 3) has refused to sleep in her room.. The first night, I will be honest, we thought she was simply having tantrums, given that easter had just finished up and sugar was riding higher than any other time.. We remained firm with her and kept putting her back in her room - she cried for an hour and a half.. Daddy had to hold her door shut and she ended up falling asleep on the floor right next to the door.

Since this night she will flat out refuse... Her bedtime routine remains the same, ie. Dinner.. Bath.. Pj's.. Lights out/quiet time/story time and then bed.. When it comes to actually putting her to bed... All hell breaks loose!

We removed chocolate from her diet.. Not that it really had a part in it anyways... We've also managed to get her to fall asleep in the lounge on her little 'in the night garden' sofa-bed settee.. Then once she is asleep.. We take her to her room, however, she's now waking during the night and comes into our room for cuddles.. First time I let her sleep with me.. Never again, don't want that co-dependency, as she is normally a very independent girl.. We then had her sleeping in her settee on our bedroom floor.. Whereby I would stroke her back (same techniques from when she was an infant).. That worked for a couple of nights.. No longer! ..

Last night, she woke up during the night and come into our room.. I said to her that we can cuddle in her bedroom.. I went to her bed.. In all my tiredness fell asleep waiting for her... She remained in our bedroom on her settee.. This morning I have told her that 'mummy slept safely and if anything was in there.. Me sleeping in there would have made it run away' ...so far, today she has stated she will sleep in her room tonight.. We'll see..

**Keeping in mind we have done the monster search and removal, however, she is still too young to express what it is exactly thats scaring her.. We've stripped her room of pictures on the wall.. Taken away things that can create shadows.. Put a very low voltage bulb for her bedroom light.. She doesn't need much to sleep soundly, just her pillow, that's her security item..**

I guess my point in writing this up is that even when you're doing all the right things... These things still happen.. And given that your child does eventually sleep, it appears the persistence is making up for something, I'd just keep trying different methods until you find one that works..throwing slight differences into what you are already doing.. We pay attention to what our daughter does during the day and listen out for any obvious signals of distress.. If she was really happy about doing something that day.. We talk about it when _attempting_ to put her to bed.. It's like a never ending freakin' puzzle!! Lol..

Good luck mate.. Here's hoping that some of the advice provided is of some assistance and my story proves that sometimes, it's not something we can simply fix.. As these things can and will happen.. It's a part of their development.. =)

Try putting a night light in her room in the same time
put the child in her room and each time she come out
take the child right in the this might go on for hours
but she will get tired and will stay you can not let
the crying break up down just keep at it

I don't know, my 2 year old still cries for 30-40 mins every night and I drives me crazy, I sit a the bottom of the stairs crying my eyes out but the time it takes her is reducing every night so by about 2020 she might go to bed herself

Read a bedtime story to her and stay there till she falls asleep.

Maybe you could lay down and if she sleeps fast enough so you wont fall asleep then when she sleeps you could quietly go away.( Put some soft music to go with it)